To be hurt ..

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Chatting via phone and text to a Man I met through on line dating site for a few weeks. We haven't been able to meet but planned for the weekend after next.
We get in well and speak a couple of times per week and text each day.
He is abroad on holidays at the moment.
We had a great chat yesterday , plenty of texting and he went out
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Each night when he comes home he g texts just general chat about the night.
He didn't last night so because of the nature of our exchanges I assume he has met up with someone and that's that.

I feel a bit stung . AIBU to feel this way and would you cut contact altogether?
This game is new to me. Thanks...

Seems an OTT reaction.

You're over reacting and being clingy, you haven't even met the bloke yet!

No , just chill out and just have fun. You sound too intense

I think you need to be careful getting too attached to someone you haven’t met in person yet, or expecting too much from them at this stage. You may end up getting hurt. Remember you’ve not met this person. He may be very interested in you but at this time he has no obligation to you just because you’ve been chatting. Give him some space and don’t feel upset, he’s able to do as he pleases.

That seems like a major overreaction because he missed one night of texting especially seeing as you haven't actually met each other yet and he's on holiday.

I once had a friend send me a really long message saying I guess we're not friends and you don't like me anymore because I hadn't responded to her texts the day before. I had been in bed with a migraine and didn't feel well enough to look at my phone, the dramatic nature of the message was unnecessary and off-putting. So try and relax he'll probably text you later today.

Or he was tired, or he got back so late he thought it would be a bad idea to txt or his battery ran out......

But yeah you could just assume the worst and give up.

So he didn’t message you when he’s on holiday, presumably with friends or family and you’re massively jumping to conclusions…. Way OTT

You cannot get invested in someone you have never met.

You're too invested. If this goes pear shaped don’t let your investment too soon and your current reaction be the template for your future dating game. You’re going to be very hurt if you don’t learn from all the dating experiences waiting for you. It’s hard out there but not without hope.
I hope he texts you soon but if not there’s plenty of others and somewhere there’s a guy just meant for you. Keep the faith.

So dramatic.
You're a grown woman, he's on holiday, he's allowed to be busy. Your insecurity will destroy the relationship.

No he’s on holiday so don’t worry if busy, actually it’s a bit weird that he’s texting on hols every day ?

I’m sure you don’t expect any real commitment this early on especially when you’re just chatting and you’ve not met. Even after meeting it’s anyone’s guess whether each of you feel interested , and happy to continue on

Maybe give it a rest and focus on getting out there to enjoy meeting people and trying different things? Could you join a couple of different types of groups like a walking or sport or exercise group, and try volunteering ; you’ll meet far nicer people that way.

I wouldn’t bother with online dating they’re likely not honest anyway & talk through their arses.

At the moment he's not really anything more than your penpal. Slow down, take it easy, don't get too clingy.

Bloody hell. Relax. He's not obligated to speak to you every day especially when he's on holiday!

Your reaction is paranoid and irrational. You really need to slow down.

Agree with all. Major over reaction and a red flag, from you.

I would be immediately turned off by someone thinking this about me.

The man is on holiday and had a night out.

You haven't met each other yet and you expect to be contacted every night without fail.

He needs to run in the opposite direction.

Thanks for honest replies which I will take on board .
He has been in touch to say he had a relaxed night. He's on his own , a friend is joining him today or tomorrow