To think misery loves company?

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A colleague and I both hated our job and would constantly complain to each other. But that’s extremely toxic and it feeds into making it worse.

Now things have changed and she constantly asks how I’m finding things with the new change, which on the face of it is caring. But when you get asked that on a Tuesday and then again on Thursday it’s a bit baffling. She still asks even now two months later when I constantly tell her it’s fine.

She asked if I went to a certain meeting and I said no I worked from home that day and she immediately jumped to saying oh have you just had enough then? 😐

It almost feels like she’s desperate for me to be miserable, even though her role has changed too and the problem she had isn’t there now.

Hi ikwym. A friend and l used to have similar constant negative conversations whenever we met but not about work .We were both having problems with respective partners/adult stepson in my case which we couldnt trust anyone else to talk about to .
In the end we had to agree to greatly limit our respective arch enemies as subject matter as we both were leaving our meet ups feeling miserable and after 'time up' would talk about happier things.
I dont understand why your friend seems to want you to still have a work problem, maybe she still does but just hides it well.
Maybe someone involved in both your problems she still feels resentment towards and sometimes that makes it hard to hear others saying they think that person is nice/ok now/whatever. Almost like you feel they are being disloyal to you and taking your former enemies side.
Is there any way you could just politely ask her why she still asks about it.?