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AIBU?

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To turn him down?

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greenhouselight · 04/06/2023 22:07

Hello everyone,

My daughter has been going to our local hairdressers since she was 6 (she's now 13) and has always had her hair cut by a fabulous hair stylist, who is amazing. We have known him (in his professionally role not personally) for many years and has been very considerate with DD as she had extreme levels on Anxiety. We get on really well.

Anywhoo, I bumped into him one day coming back late from work. He was being a bit over friendly- which I found a bit unusual and then said he will "call me and that he needs to talk"Confused. That was two months ago.

All of a sudden, out of the blue, I've been getting missed calls from him. I called him back but no answer and then recently I sent him a message to say that DD has asked when he will be available to style her hair and left it as that.

He called me yesterday and apologised and then seemed he wanted to have an in-depth conversation with me. It didn't go anywhere. Anywho, I asked him what was the reason why he wanted to speak to me. He told me that he had a dream about me but would explain later. I then questioned him further and then he further said "... I had a dream with you in a wedding dress, and there were people gathering around us... I don't know why..". I laughed it off and said "oh really? Maybe it's because we've known each other for a long while". He then said "Maybe...".

Anyway, DD has a hair appointment with him
In two weeks and she suffers from extreme anxiety and would not go on her own. I I feel awkward now. I think his a very nice person, but I don't see him like that. I just see him as a friendly family member. I don't want to make it awkward between us but how do I turn him down gently and AIBU?

OP posts:
barmycatmum · 04/06/2023 22:12

It’s a bit weird and personal, but if your daughter loves his work and is comfortable, I wouldn’t just start avoiding him out of discomfort.
if he pursues things with you, just make it very clear you appreciate his work and you’re not interested in more.
i would think an adult person can handle disappointment.

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