To leave DP...

[LovelyIssues]

DP has just come back from a weekend away (work thing) and I feel sad he's back.

It sounds awful but the last 2 days have been so relaxed. House has been tidier, quieter, less stressful, we've had music on, been more silly etc. It's just been so nice.

I'm now concerned that he's been back an hour and I'm already feeling tense again. He's moaned at the DCs. One has already commented to me it was nicer when he wasn't here. (We have 2 DC and engaged but no plans to marry)

I used to feel the same when my DH worked. Is he’s retired I could easily kill him several times a day 🤣🤣

*now he’s retired

I just felt so much more relaxed, we all did actually!

If he doesn't spark joy anymore, ask him to leave.

Marie Kondo his arse out of there.

Your feelings prove that he is not the right man for you.

However, WE cannot tell you if it's wise to split up with him.

"Marie Kondo his arse out of there" is classic.

You have the power to change your future op.
Do it.

You can leave him for any reason you like!

This is sad,are the kids his?

when my husband has been away overnight,like post op in a hospital-the kids stay up as long as possible ask when he is coming home,put his picture on his pillow and sleep on his bedside and when they have had their 4-6 sleep wake up asking is he coming home yet and why is it taking so long.

Sounds like you'd all be happier if he left permanently tbh.

Is your DP ok? Is he stressed/unhappy? Has it always been this way? Why do you feel tense when he’s there, why does he feel tense?

Fucking hell, this is no way to live. Your child is trying to tell you something, I beg you to listen. The dysfunction in your home has already impacted your kids.

🤣 🤣

He's always stressed & tense. His life is fairly easy. He is self employed. I work full time & pay all the bills. I do any childcare etc. He doesn't do ANYTHING around the house. In fact, I feel his life is extremely stress free 😅

@Bloopsie yes children are his. They've always both been "Mummy, Mummy, Mummy".

😂

Sounds like you know your answer OP. Still rough but you can't live like that X

When I was married to dh 1 he never joined us in a day out or holiday.. He worked in a bar (second job very much his calling...) his work mates never even knew he had a dw or dc...

You pay all the bills and he does fuck all around the house??

Whats the point of him?