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Reporting creepy but unthreatening men approaching in street?

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tomorrowalready · 04/06/2023 20:35

Just typed out long explanation but lost it so try to shorten. Last February and today I was approached by a man apparently asking for directions but then changing to ask about local eating places. The reason it may be suspicious is that although polite and not physically threatening at all, both men changed from initial inquiry to explain they were from another particular city so had apparently randomly set out alone in a car to travel over 20 miles to find something to eat in place they don't know. The first man never got out of his car parked across a driveway, the second was on foot at first but had a car parked across the road. They had similar characteristics but I cannot be sure if the same man with the same story or different men. What if anything do MNs think?

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kenstaylor · 04/06/2023 20:56

always be cautious and trust your gut. I had a man ask me for help reading a poster as he “didn’t have his glasses” I thought nothing of it as I was only 17/18 but as I was walking away I noticed him following so I ran off and he chased me. Can never be to careful

TheWorldsGoneMadAndSoHaveI · 04/06/2023 21:22

There have been a few incidences in my area where one person engages someone in chat to distract them from the other person who stealing from you

tomorrowalready · 04/06/2023 22:57

Thanks for the replies. Fortunately they kept a good distance away and were alone so not a distraction thing. I do keep people at a distance anyway. Also no longer young but agree we can't be too careful. I wish I could definitely say they were the same man trying on the same trick to get - who knows what? Or two separate men doing and saying the same thing in the same area. That's why I wonder about reporting, in case others have experienced the same approach by the same or different men in the area.

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PimpMyFridge · 04/06/2023 22:59

Good be pick up artists in training. They wear mics and get coached. Mind boggling but true. 🤢

ReadtheReviews · 04/06/2023 23:19

My mum got approached by a car on a lane with a man in who asked directions, he then asked her to get in car to show him where and she almost did but thought better of it suddenly. It's the car in this that gives me pause OP. I'd post the experience on a local fb page and see if anyone else had same. Give all details of looks and car.

tomorrowalready · 04/06/2023 23:41

Hi , pimpmyfridge, I don't think they are following a training thing as they (or he) were in mid to late fifties and wearing wedding rings. sorry realised i forgot to mention that. I am also vey bad at noticing cars though thinking about it the first one may have been a much smarter make, maybe BMW or similar. also, I am sorry your mother had such a frightening experience, readmyreviews, I suppose that is what is at back of my mind. it happened in full daylight by very busy road so I replied at first as to any other genuine query but then the pick up element was introduced. I don't know if I should add I am 60 + a slow moving, heavy weight, shopping trolley-toting post-everything 'invisible woman' so I don't think it's anything personal. But now it's happened twice I am wondering. I am reluctant to get involved with any facebook groups as I read such dismal things about them.

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Georgeandzippyzoo · 05/06/2023 00:31

A few yrs ago I was followed homexsround 9pm. The was a reason I knew I was being followed and it so unnerved me I called at a local care home and asked to use their phone to call me husband to walk down to meet me, i was literally 100m from my home. I have travelled on public transport for yrs , late evenings, walking quiet streets for connections etc and never been bothered. This had me truly scared. He didn't speak/touch/threaten me but I was scared by him.
I did call the police (non emergency) to highlight it, incase another situation arose from it, however as he hadn't spoken/touched etc there was nothing they could do, but I felt better that at least someone knew incase another person was approached .
I think that nowadays they are more tuned into 'predatory/unusual 'behaviours.

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