To not want to move back with dad

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We have been given our 2 month notice on the rental we are in which takes us to the begging of August, we have purchased a new build that won't be ready until September.
Dad has offered for me, DH, DD2 and DSS10 to live with him until the new house is complete, dad lives an our away from where we currently live / new house. Between DH and I we have managed to get most of August off work so don't need to worry about travelling to DD childcare, we will be saving a fortune in rent, bills and council tax for that month and can put our furniture in storage whi h means we can gradually move into our new home.

All sounds great, but the thought of living with my dad just makes me feel sick. My dad is the kind of person that always puts me down and thinks it's funny, he's a bit of a bully and thinks women are second class citizens (really effected my mental health when i was younger and living with him) and Not only that but since mum passed away a few years ago the house is disgusting to the point of dead flys in the kitchen units, wires all over the lounge from his gadgets, mold all over shower and my sisters things stored in all the rooms, the garden is overgrown to the state the Weeds are higher then the 6 foot fence. There is no reason he can't do the housework or garden, he just always left stuff like that to mum and now just doesnt do it. I called the other day to ask when my sister will move her things (she has her own home) and when can I come round to do a big clean and he told me she isn't, that there is no need and the house is all fine as it is.

I'm so grateful for the offer as otherwise we would be homeless with nowhere to go but I'm really not looking forward to it.

So AIBU I should be very grateful as he is doing us a huge favour and just suck it up as hopefully will only be for around 6 weeks.

Well, do you have other options?

No I don't

I would be looking at air BnB

I did thar earlier but for just a month it's unaffordable.

Well then of course YANBU to be dreading it, but I would just try to remember it's not for long!

A bell tent and a campsite?

Can you ask your sister yourself, surely she knows you are going to need space. Can you try and limit your time there to just sleeping and go out during the days. What does he say about the garden, have you asked how the children are going to play in a garden if it’s that overgrown. Does your father work, maybe I could put up with staying there if he wasn’t around too much, but would probably spend all the time cleaning.

He does work yes so will be out the house Monday- Friday, I plan to go round a couple of weekends prior to do a big clean, he's not happy about this which is difficult because I don't want to upset him as he is letting us stay but the state its in isn't safe for DD.

My plan is to try and go on holiday for a week, then the rest of the time spend at DGP as they have a massive garden, or at a friend's house.

Please tell me 6 weeks will go quickly.

Stay where you are. Your landlord won't be able to get you evicted for several months.

On one hand he's rude on the other he's opening up his home. You then further expect him to allow access to his home which he is obviously offended by. Entitled does not cover you!

I think you will regret going to your dad's.

All the money you save won't be worth the stress and upset he causes you.

Imagine if he weren't around. What would you do. Think about it and do that!

Agreed just stay where you are. It’s only an extra month your current landlord cant make you ‘homeless’ over 4 more weeks! Even a section 21 would add another few months to evict you. Please don’t move out when you can stay because they want you gone!