Hey, looking for any advice/stories really! Me and my partner have been together for 6 years, married for 2. Pre child I was the breadwinner by quite a significant amount (£40K+ more than my partner) and was always career driven, financially independent and didn’t really think about kids/family etc . 2 years into our relationship I was rushed into hospital and had to have emergency surgery and was told I may not be able to have children- this completely threw me off and from that point we decided we wanted to try- after a few miscarriages we fell pregnant and we now have a gorgeous 3 year old. However since I’ve been a mum the roles have reversed and I’m no longer the breadwinner and my partner now is by a similar amount to what I was previously. He has also got promoted and career is accelerating etc post child whilst I had to move jobs and practically start again due to many factors beyond my control so it’s been pretty tough (don’t get me
wrong he absolutely deserves it and I’m so proud of him) but my question is after you’ve had children and in instances where dynamics have changed and you are finding yourself more dependent on the other person financially etc how do you adapt to that power shift? I can’t help but have a little resentment/ feel more vulnerable but I’m eager to appreciate what I have at the same time!