This is a long rant so bear with me and I am a long term poster but have name changed as potentially very outing.
We currently live in the countryside but DH and kids decided they would like to move to a city that we have previously lived in (kids were small so they probably don’t remember what it was like) but are now teenagers and slightly fed up with rural living. DH is an introvert and in the 10 years we have been here has not made any effort really to mix or make friends. He is keen to move, we have old friends in city and it would be easy to slip back in to a social life. He wants to be near his family (parents) . He is fed up of driving everywhere as we are quite remote. He is looking forward to a change and having things more ‘on the doorstep’.I gave in and accepted the move as all three other family members seemed keen and I felt outnumbered. Now we have found a house but it is nothing like the gorgeous cottage we have here, it’s small and pokey. We viewed it again today and I had a minor breakdown! The city feels much busier and dirtier and nosier than I remembered. It’s so much more expensive there and therefore (property-wise) we are getting so much less for our money... I’m worried about the kids potentially getting in to more trouble there, moving schools, making new friends can all be tricky. The current rural school they are at is great, only problem is it’s a long way away and extra curriculum stuff is always a hassle. I love it here though and think the benefits out way the nuisances. It’s beyond gorgeous and very friendly. We are on one of the most beautiful parts of the U.K. I am panicking we are making a huge mistake. AIBU to dig my heels in? I feel in my gut we should not move but I know I’m outnumbered and we have already begun the moving process (offer accepted and surveys done etc) What do I do??? So confused.