AIBU to let DD have her hair cut short ?

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SecondhandTable · 03/06/2023 22:25

My DD will be starting reception in September. She's always had short hair, a bob. Then when she was 3.5 she didn't even like it like that and wanted it cut super short like a pixie cut type thing. She loved it, although people frequently mistook her for a boy, but often she didn't seem to realise and even when she did, she wasnt bothered. A little while ago she told me she wants to grow it, so we've left it and she just gets her fringe trimmed now and again. Her hair is a mullet but the hairdresser said best to just leave it whilst it grows out and she'd tidy it up before she starts school. DD is now already fed up with her hair and says she wants it cut very short again. Relatives are telling me that I shouldn't let her have it cut, that people will think she is a boy, that when she goes to school I'm setting her up for bullying etc if I send her with such short hair, and also telling DD not to get it cut (to which she says no Im going to!). Friends haven't said anything either way when I've mentioned it, so I don't know if they agree but too polite to tell me?!

Would I be unreasonable to let her have it cut short again if she wants to?

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CaptainMyCaptain · 04/06/2023 08:37

Blueskysunflower · 03/06/2023 23:34

I seriously doubt the kids will care or bully her about it in reception, and if they do you address it with the school, don’t force her to conform to ridiculous gender stereotypes. One or two children might wonder if she’s a boy but will no doubt learn she’s not, especially if she’s wearing a “girl’s” uniform. In my experience 5 year olds aren’t bothered about differences or hair anyway, it’s adults that get their pants twisted about it. If she wants it short let her have it short. My daughter’s hair is pretty short, albeit not quite pixie cut short, it’s way easier to manage than when it was long and she likes it. She’s the only one in her class that doesn’t look like rapunzel and none of the children or parents have ever said anything about it. I couldn’t care less that certain elderly relatives (with short hair themselves) keep lamenting how beautiful her long hair was, she’s a person not a barbie doll.

Perfect post.

Lancelottie · 04/06/2023 08:42

You have a little one who is ‘very 'shy' (read : anxious) with new people/in new situations’

She ‘dislikes the faff of washing, drying, brushing, so wants it cut off’

You ‘guess even then she was aware that it wasn't common but I suppose she didn't care’.

OK, I’m going to be that parent and just suggest you keep a quiet eye out for signs of autism. I was that child.

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