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To be tired with this life?

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RunningOnHope · 03/06/2023 21:19

The title should be read as "tired, given that this is my life" rather than "tired of this life".

I feel like I'm tired all the time - I have that "after the next two weeks everything will settle down and I'll catch up on some rest" syndrome, but then it never does calm down, so I'm constantly feeling exhausted. Not burnt out, not at breaking point, just really tired. The thing is, I don't feel like my life is busy or hard enough to justify it.

I'm a SAHM to our almost 2yo DD - no other children. I also do various freelance bits of work in the few hours of childcare I have once a week; nothing too strenuous but enough to usually have a deadline on my mind.

DP works 6 days a week, including some evenings, but often one or two of those days are lighter work/more flexible. We use the one full day off to either have a family day together or to give each other a bit of alone time, whichever feels more needed. DP is great at sharing the load when not working - equal parenting, housework etc.

We have quite a lot going on at the moment: going through IVF to try for a second baby and recently had a miscarriage. We're also looking at a big move, I'm travelling for job interviews that take a few days at a time.

DP had some time off for stress and depression earlier this year. Doing much better now, but stress does tend to leak out through the body, so DP is perhaps more often physically ill than some people. I'm rarely ill which is fortunate but when I am, it's when we all are, so no chance of a proper "sick day" where I can rest - we still need to look after DD between us and I'm usually the less ill.

But that's all. Solid relationship, good communication, generally good relationships with extended family etc. Happy being a SAHM for now, happy with the prospect of going back to work if any of these interviews works out.

So, should I be worried that there's any physical reason for it? Should I be seeing a GP? Or does that sound like tiredness and lifestyle is about in proportion?

YABU - that lifestyle shouldn't make you so tired.
YANBU - you're a reasonable amount of tired.

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Homeywomey · 03/06/2023 21:22

So being a SAHM to a nearly 2 year old, having gone through a miscarriage and dealing with a partner with stress and depression - any one of those would make me feel tired…so you are definitely NBU!

CheesePls · 03/06/2023 21:25

YANBU at all, I’m very tired feeling similar to you with much less on my plate than you. I really hope you get your rainbow and I’m sorry to hear life has got this hectic. Hope you have a more peaceful Sunday x

RunningOnHope · 03/06/2023 21:42

Ah thanks for your kind words, both. I don't want to come across as looking for sympathy, just never sure what fits in the realms of normal! DD is such an easy kid but I guess just her age does make it quite full on. I'm always conscious that, having wanted two close together, it would be more work if i also had a young baby at home. Feels like one should be easy.

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