Is it normal to be THIS tired with one child

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I’m tired..nearly all the time, Dh is too.
We have an amazing, nearly 5 year old Dd.
We had her later in life due to infertility, I was pregnant at 39, gave birth at 40, Dh is the same age.
We live in a beach/tourist type place. Pre dd, we’d head to the beach after work in summer most nights, sunbathe, swim, drink. There’s nothing saying we can’t do that with Dd now, but by around 6 pm after having dinner and walking the dog, I don’t want to do anything, well, I want to, but can’t work up the energy. In the lighter, warmer months, I’d enjoy walking the dog around the block at sunset, now I’m lay on the sofa.
Dd is a very active, intense child.
I work part time, Dh full time. I previously worked full time and weekends sometimes too, never felt tired.
Is this normal??

Could be perimenopause?

That left me feeling exhausted in my 40s.

But I think all parents are tired. I remember fantasising about sleep when mine were little - it's normal.

I feel similar, coming on to 39. I have two kids, but I don't really think it's them making me tired as such.

OP I'm 40 and my youngest is 4 and I've been asking myself the very same question!

I had my first child at 24, and never felt like this.

I think it's just because we are a bit old 😭

Oh believe me that's just for that day.

When I only have one of my kids for the day, it's SO much easier.

I had this - it turned out I'd developed coeliac disease from my previous pregnancy/birth.

Stopped eating wheat and felt like a new woman, and lots of other symptoms I had no idea were related also disappeared.

I went private and got a doctor to test me for everything - because my main symptoms are intense fatigue and brain fog rather than digestive the NHS wouldn't even do the blood test and wrote it off as 'you've got a two year old'.

Also read a book called the Postnatal Depletion. Although it can be summarised as eat healthily, get a good multivitamin and get blood tests for deficiencies, it's a good reminder to prioritise self-care and how much strain not only pregnancy and birth but also child-rearing have on our bodies.

Quite normal. My longing at that time was to have a day to myself to sleep. What is odd is that when I went to work (part time), I was fairly lively.