Bride / bridesmaid fall out

[Loudpeople]

I was a bridesmaid a few weeks ago and the bride had invited all the other bridesmaids to stay at the venue the night before and the night of the wedding with our partners (she paid). We all had dinner the night before and went to bed, except some of them didn’t.

The 3 other bridesmaids and their boyfriends had a party in one of their rooms, loud music, drunken singing / shouting. The groom popped in and asked them to be quiet, then the brides father did and eventually the bride did. It was about 1am at this point.

The bride was quite upset about it all but since then the other bridesmaids have been calling her boring and basically bitching about her for telling them to go to bed like children. I wasn’t there but she said they’d just been asked to turn the music down.

Anyway, I feel like shutting them down next time they start bitching as I feel they were wrong but wanted to see general opinions.

YABU - bridesmaids are correct
YANBU - bride and groom are right

Can't you just keep out of it and distance yourself?

Yanbu, bridesmaids are totally out of order to not turn the music down and to slag off the bride. I'd avoid them in future but take your lead from the bride.

The bridesmaids and their partners are absolute cocks.

Are you all very young? Not that it's an excuse for their behaviour but honestly, behaving like lairy teens on a school trip away. Mortifying.

Course they were out of order!!
I would never dream of doing that the night before the wedding. Disgusting.

we’re you really the bride though?!

Eh? You want advice on whether you should sit and listen to the bitching about your friend or not? Be a real friend and do the right thing.

I am assuming you a quite young? Of course you should opt out of the gossiping about a best friend

They kept other guests awake the night before the wedding. Worse, they kept the bride and groom awake, who'd paid for their accommodation.

I hope they're ashamed of how they showed their lack of appreciation for the hospitality.

As far as what you should do, I'd be telling them that you don't want to hear any of their bitchiness. Then I'd distance yourself from them. But don't then side with the bride and get caught in a row. Keep your head held high.

Why on earth are you validating them by listening to them bitch about the bride?
You have awful friends!

What appalling behaviour from supposed adults when their accommodation had been paid for by the bride and groom.

I dread to think what I’d have done to them if they tried that sort of carry on before my wedding.

What a disgusting way to behave! Don't they realise that hotels HATE guests like them, never mind the fact that they clearly upset the bride, groom, and the grooms Dad. I'm afraid if I heard them bitching about the bride being boring, I would probably say that if it had been me, I would have been mortified that my supposedly adult guests, were behaving like layabouts, in a nice hotel, and that I would have been worried that the hotel would blame me, for any complaints they had from other guests who complained about being disturbed. They were lucky that management didn't throw them out.

Yes, very boring of the bride to want to rest before her wedding. The noise-makers are obviously unreasonable. Not certain it's a good idea to get into it with them, though. People like that won't be convinced that they did anything wrong. Better to just be a friend to the bride and stop seeing the trouble-makers.

The bridesmaids are unreasonable. No guest be it the bride, groom, family or other paying guests want to hear a party in a hotel room. They sound very ungrateful and also clearly unaware of the stress and nerves the bride would have been feeling the night before.
If they bring it up again then I’d politely point out thag they were very inconsiderate.

Of course the bride isn’t being unreasonable! If you’ve paid to stay in a hotel, any hotel, you wouldn’t appreciate being kept awake by selfish people having a party next door. If the hotel neighbours are friends, who are the bride and groom and getting married tomorrow and have paid for the hotel room, it’s even worse and I can complete understand why the bride is upset about it. Tbf, the hotel staff should have stepped in and asked them to quieten down because they were disturbing other guests. Surely hotels have rules about this kind of thing? (Eg on a campsite it is generally expected that you are quiet after 10pm).

If I was the bride I would have been minus three of my bridesmaids the next morning. Totally awful behaviour.

Honestly the other bridesmaids sound like cunts. Why are you listening to them bitch about your friend? It makes you almost as bad as them.