Am I wrong?

[Yumsie]

Hello everyone I hope you’re okay. Sorry, it’s a long one ❤️.

I needed a space to share how I’m feeling. This is my first post so please go easy on me lol. I have a baby, I’m going through postnatal depression but I’m out of the worst of it. I need to know if I’m going crazy.

1. Am I unreasonable for telling my partner he has no right to pressurise me into selling the car I own, that he pays absolutely nothing towards - a car I owned long before I knew him?
2. Am I unreasonable for saying his mother cannot move in with us, into our small home with our child because she’s lonely (she is healthy going through a heartbreak) I sympathise but she isn’t someone I could live with.
3. Am I unreasonable for saying that I need to prioritise spending time with my Mum a day after she just had a mild heart attack, versus keeping his Mum company after a heartbreak - while he goes on holiday with his mates?
4. Am I unreasonable for saying I don’t feel comfortable having his guy friends stay with us for a week when we have a 5 month old and I’m struggling to breastfeed and I have postnatal depression?
5. Am I unreasonable for getting angry at him because he volunteered me to look after our neighbours child (because she needs free childcare) while I work a stressful job, I’m struggling with postnatal depression - and I had to go back to work sooner than I wanted because he needed financial help - is that inconsiderate of me?
6. Was it unreasonable of me to get upset after his mother threw away a gift from a friend of mine, in my home because she said it looked old (she did this after I said she couldn’t move in)

I know these issues seem minor but let me know your thoughts ❤️❤️❤️

I would leave but then again, I have a low tolerance to things like this. My family would never treat my partner like this, and I wouldn’t expect his family to treat me like this.

If these are examples of 'minor' things OP, I dread to think what else has been/is going on!! I'm glad to hear that you have your own family around, and that they agree with you about his behaviour. Ask them for support in leaving this waste of space and his mother. It sounds like you're perfectly capable of financially supporting yourself and your child if necessary, so don't waste any more time supporting this selfish, mummy's boy.

Would you be happy for your child if they grew up and ended up in a relationship like this?

I suspect if he wasn't around your mental health might actually improve. Prioritise yourself and your baby.

YANBU AT ALL

You are perfectly reasonable on all points!

Him however...

They sound like a tag team, trying to wear you down
Be strong, it's your life/home/car etc not to mention health and mental health
You see their games clearly and I doubt you will be taking any of their nonsense
sending love and strength X
these fuckwits are supposed to be helping and supporting you

YANBU. These issues are not minor. Maybe you will be best without him?

YABU for even needing to ask.

Thank goodness he is still a 'P' not an 'H'.

Get rid pronto. Trust your own family to help but get him and his mum out of your life

Yanbu.
Why is he going on a lads holiday when he has a baby, and no money?!

Surely when you wrote this list it became crystal clear YANBU? If each point was a stand-alone event, they would be awful, but the combination adds up to a pattern of really unkind behaviour. It makes me very uncomfortable that you use the word "minor". From just your initial post I'm getting vibes that this man tries to gaslight you, and has used your postnatal depression as a way to belittle you and suggest that your opinions are invalid and "crazy". They are not!! HE IS THE UNREASONABLE ONE!