MIL and cards...

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This happened a few weeks ago and it's been playing on my mind.

recently I had a random conversation with MIL how I love cards but at the same time, I don't as I feel bad when I eventually throw them out..

She agreed with me that they were a hassle, but seemed slightly miffed and said she would expect me to keep the cards she's given to her grandkids. ( I haven't )...

Anyhow. I keep cards for a while but inevitably they end up being thrown. So recently she was at my house while I wasn't there ( not ideal ). We had a wedding invitation and a wedding thank you card on display somewhere. Not really intentionally, it was just there and I hadn't had time to put them away yet.

When I came back, I noticed that she'd retrieved birthday cards from her and FIL and from DH siblings only and had put them on display.....

I think they must have been tucked away in a kitchen cupboard with lots of other cards.

Is it just me or is that really fucking weird ? When I asked her ' oh what's this ' she said ' I can't remember that one haha '.....

I feel like she was making some sort of point.

Gosh I'd find that really weird. I think there's no need to do anything other than just carry on as you are and avoid the topic tbh!
My mum is bit like this. Obsessed with giving cards and gifts 'to keep'. She got really upset once when I mentioned I'd regifted a toy my aunt had given my son because he has so many similar toys already. Apparently I should have kept it in a box forever even though it was never being played with, because it was given as a new baby present and was therefore 'special to keep'.

I'm the same. They go in the recycling bin after about a week.

Conversely, some years ago when we were clearing my MIL's house for sale after her death, we found it neat as a pin but every drawer and cupboard was stuffed to bursting with every birthday card, Christmas card and Mother's Day card she had ever been sent (from anyone at all) going back donkeys' years. Hundreds of them.

We didn't keep those. It did make me wonder though what she must have thought of me, who only keeps it for a short time??🤣

So how come she can root around your house while you're out and have you addressed that?

@Nanny0gg she was cooking at my house because I was away. So I'm guessing she was looking for something in my Kitchen and found the cards shoved in some corner somewhere. This is what I assume. No idea if that's how it happened.