Is it me

[Toofargonenow]

Sorry if this is vague im a tad upset

Does your partner notice you

So it's been up and down a while now but the last few days all about the babies (as it should be) today I came home from work and he wants to be intimate mentioning alot. So when kids are in bed I get a bath and put some lovely lingerie on, partner absolutely did not notice and when I have said do you not like it called me needy.... absolute row and he has gone to bed without me. I didn't want to go.

He has started doing the gym every morning and even when he comes home on the bike..

Bank Holiday today and I was working he wasn't and when I came home he just wanted to go to the gym..

Feels like he is obsessive and I feel so inadequate.

I genuinely felt lovely tonight now sat bawling but also know I wasn't wrong

Sounds like he's looking elsewhere, sorry to be blunt op.

I feel like with men though, they need you to spell it out and genuinely don't realise sometimes. Shit excuse and its annoying but maybe an honest and open convo is all you need!

Sadly I have felt @HadEnough2023 is right, he's cheated before and I'm feeling it but been made to feel like it's me, he's in it for himself whilst I run round like a blue assed fly sorting everything.

Absolutely where none of us want to be is it

Why are you still with a man who has cheated on you?

I dont know @Aquamarine1029 believed all the bull he fed me I think

My husband cheated 16 years ago. When I found out he was devastated and put everything in to reconciling. We had counselling etc etc. he was dedicated to me. It was intoxicating the effort he made. We had a fabulous marriage before and after, I thought it was a blip. Turns out the character flaw was simply lying dormant. He is who he is. The effort he made was only because that suited him at the time.
However he's only that person during good times, another time when circumstances suited him again and he cheated.

The fault was not with me, I am a really nice person, I'm attractive and fun; not saying this in a braggy way, just saying I'm not the cliche of a boring older woman who let themselves go), the fault is his character flaw.

I've always been keen for the gym, he was a member but always made an excuse, he was getting fat and started to age. Then in Feb that changed, he started going more, all at the same time as he stopped noticing me, he thought he was so clever, when he was as clear as the nose in his face. He's gone, I kicked him out.

Read the signs with your husband and protect yourself.

A man who loves you won't call you "needy" for pointing out lingerie, they'll respond with affection. I'm sorry you're seeing issues in your relationship, I hope you have respect for yourself. Good luck.