My DP and I had just put DC to bed, we sat down with our dinner and put Britains got talent on the tv as easy watching with dinner. DP has been drinking all afternoon, he is tipsy but seems ok.
AD on BGT has dreadlock extensions in, and DP starts going on about how wrong that its, it’s cultural appropriation, how people spend years growing them surely it’s offensive to clip then in. Now I don’t know enough about it, but said 1. We don’t know Alesha’s heritage. 2. It may not be offensive it’s a style of hair 3. It may be a good role model for young black females that she wears her hair that way.
He continues going on about how it’s inappropriate and he is offended by it, on behalf of his brother who has spent years growing his dreadlocks, she should not just wear clip ons. (Brother is white and not Rasta, if that’s important) by now I’m done with this conversation and just say it’s up to her, what she does doesn’t really affect me. This seems to rile him up and he says oh then what PS did with his runner, doesn’t affect you either then so that’s ok. This is getting ridiculous to me and I say look you can’t compare them, and he carries on saying PS being a rumoured Paedo doesn’t directly affect you, so you can’t get offended by it. Well yes I am affected by it because it is wrong, and it’s worrying. Now after a few drinks he can get like this and go on and on, I can’t win an argument, I’m always wrong. Even if I said the grass was green I’d be wrong, so i don’t want the conversation. I just tell him I don’t want to discuss it, it’s silly. He then turns it round and says it was just a bit of fun, god can’t even have some fun in this relationship anymore. He promptly finished his dinner and said he was going to bed as he didn’t like how I ended the conversation . I’m Sat here flabbergasted! What just happened? AIBU for not wanting to have that conversation?