This feels really pathetic but I am back dating after marriage ending. Been chatting to someone I have known quite a few years. It would only ever be a bit of fun with him, he's a bit younger than me and I have known he's liked me for some time, even when I was married but he always knew I wasn't interested.
He has messaged me lots, always nice stuff, he suggested we meet on Saturday. I was out with friends for evening so we were meeting for a late drink, I messaged to say what time we were finishing (basically confirming the same time we'd roughly said) he messaged back when I was on my way home quite a bit after I messaged in the end to say he'd got really pissed so couldn't meet. Fine, it was about 11pm anyway and I knew he was also out first. Lots of messaging that night, about midnight he said was it too late to meet up, I said yes, I was home and not going out, i also felt like it would have been a 'booty call' as he was home also by then. Arranged to meet tomorrow day time.
I message today to confirm time, he said shit sorry I have to work now. Apparently manager off sick and they have to cover. I just said OK. No response from him to that. A bit irritated as doesn't appear he was going to tell me.
I need to leave it don't I? I'm not a mug and certainly not chasing for something that's casual or did I sound shitty just saying OK so perhaps should message with something more polite?
I am in my 40s so not young, I feel like a total dickhead even questioning myself but haven't dated since I was 20 as been engaged/married all that time. He obviously doesn't owe me anything, as I said it would only be casual anyway but I'm thinking even casual is not worth it if someone plays games, but on the other hand it could actually be genuine reasons? Perhaps the chase was more exciting to him?