Been married 12 years. My wife has anger issues. It doesn’t take much for her to fly into a rage which will last for days or even weeks.
At the other extreme, she might become very upset and start crying. It’s almost impossible to know how she will react to a situation, whether it’s rage or tears.
Recently this behaviour has become more directed at the kids, who are 8 and 7. She will become frustrated and start shouting at them over minor things ( leaving a mess) orshe might go to our room and start crying because she feels the children aren’t listening to her or are disrespectful.
I thought things were getting better as she wasn’t as angry as before, during the early years of our marriage she’d give me the silent treatment for days every few weeks.
It’s how she was raised, her family are in a constant state of conflict with their extended family.
She has said that she feels stressed and depressed a many times over the past year but she hasn’t gone to the doctor. I really don’t know what to do. We have other issues going on, money, health so it’s not a happy environment for anyone.
I know she is unhappy with our marriage (arranged). I was thinking that a marriage / family therapist might help address her underlying unhappiness with me.
i don’t know what I should really do.