to get angry when my husband sleeps until noon?

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My dd1 is 8 weeks old and my husband works weekends. He is off Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. He sleeps until noon while I am up with the sun with dd1. When I try to wake him up he says he is sorry but he's tired from his week of work and needs to have some down time.

I may be hyper sensitive but this really pisses me off! Why does he get to sleep in after 4 days of work, while I am expected to work 24 hours a day, 7 days a week looking after the baby and the house? I've not slept past 7am in 8 weeks but I have never asked him to get up with our daughter so I can sleep until noon.

Am I being unreasonable?

no

you need to sit down and talk to him and explain that this isn't how it works when you have children

or just leave the baby in bed with him and go out for the day and say that YOU need a break

deal with it now or you will be stabbing him with kitchen scissors a few years down the line

no, YANBU.

When he gets up, you go to bed for the afternoon.

is he finding it hard adjusting to having a baby and using the excuse of being 'tired' to hide away upstairs?

if you are doing everything, is he feeling useless and 'in the way'?

you need to arrange a arse kicking session little chat to sort him out

YANBU.

What morningpaper said.

Oh yes agree he also needs 1-1 time with dd.
My dh started doing this when our dd was a baby and I had a lie in at the weekend - I would give her a feed then go back to bed and they would hang out together. In fact that's how he learned to do most of the practical stuff because he was not allowed to wake me up.

are you breastfeeding? if not, when he gets up at noon, you go back to bed....! otherwise if he insists on sleeping in, he can do housework, shopping, ironing etc.. so that you can concentrate on the baby, and sleep when she sleeps

he perhaps has not taken on board how tiring having a newborn is for you

have a chat, explain that as you are both new parents, you both need down time, and there has to be give and take and compromise

YANBU. And you are not hyper sensitive. He needs to know how tiring it is for you, and to get up when he's needed. Being tired from work doesn't even scratch the surface of the fatigue you get from looking after a newborn.

Thanks ladies. It's nice to know other people think I'm not over-reacting. I have tried to broach the subject in the past, but we always end up arguing and I just don't have the strength or the energy to face another argument. I'll deal with it for now and see how he does when dd1 is a little older. Until then I'll just enjoy hanging out with my daughter.