Blanketgate

[CostelloJones]

My mum bought our children a blanket.
really soft, semi-expensive, pattern with cute little animals… think Joules or Boden vibes. It wasn’t cheap.

DH hates it - not to his taste

the kids only use it for lounging on the sofa, it’s not made it’s way into the “something precious to the children” category. But I think it’s nice, and it was a sweet gift.

anyway DH keeps giving it to the dog. I keep telling him not to but he “forgets”

the dog has a cheap fleece blanket anyway

I’m fed up of constantly washing the blanket because it’s smells doggy

i worry my mum might pop in and see it in the dogs bed or catch a glimpse of it in there if I send her a picture and forget - I think she’d be upset (I would!)

am I being uptight?

or should I just pack it away so no one uses it but at least it’s kept in a good condition, maybe use it in the future

Just to add the dog isn’t a chewer so I’m not worried about it getting destroyed… but even so I think it seems ungrateful of DH

I would tell him in no uncertain terms to stop giving it to the dog. That it is disrespectful of him to be doing this, disrespectful to you, your children and your mum. If he keeps doing it swap for something he's fond of and say you 'forgot'.

He's being very disrespectful to both you and your mum

Sounds pretty mean and controlling of DH - so what if it's not to his taste? He needs to stop being so selfish. He is putting you in an awkward position and making you feel uncomfortable enough to bring this to MN. This was a gift bought with the best of intentions, for his children. It's not his to chuck about and give to the dog. Also, fantastic example he's setting to the kids of being tolerant and respecting other people 👏🏼

Tell him to grow up and stop being such a toddler. He will likely go in a strop - make sure you've got some warm milk and cookies for him.

Yeah that's really mean. What's his problem?

How would he feel if you gave something of his to the dog? He is being a twat.

Agreed. He's being disrespectful and doing it on purpose! Of course he hasn't forgotten l that the blanket is your child's and not the dogs, he's choosing to give it to the dog because he doesn't like it.

I mean I wouldn’t have chosen it either myself, but that doesn’t mean you don’t look after it?

Put one of his jumpers in the dogs bed that you don’t particularly like on him.

I think your husband needs to realise that lots of things won’t be to his taste in life. I think I’d just find his favourite trainers that the dog might like because they’re really not tasteful at all.

If you don't like it either, can't you just fold it and drape it over the corner of something in the child's room so it's not front and centre?

Meanwhile, your husband is a deeply unpleasant man, with the manners of a toddler. This, of course, is the real issue.

I don’t dislike it, but wouldn’t have chosen it myself it that makes sense

it spends most of its time folded on a footstool in the corner of the room until it’s needed, it’s not like it’s on the sofa all the time

to be fair in the past, we have given sofa blankets to the dog when they have got a bit tatty and he’s been sat in them in the sofa anyway

but that’s been cheap ones that have only been bought to put on the sofa to protect it a bit, this is different

One time, I could just about accept it was a mistake . But repeatedly? He’s doing that deliberately.

I don’t think the blanket is the issue here. How else does he diminish you Op? Because I bet my bottom dollar this is the tip of the iceberg.

It’s very disrespectful and that’s what I would be telling him. If he continues I would then find the piece of clothing he likes the most and give that to the dog. When he kicks of I would just say now he knows what it feels like to be disrespected and hopefully lesson learnt

Honestly no complaints otherwise… he’s just got beef with a blanket 😂

Tell him the next time you see the blanket in the dogs bed it will be removed and replaced with his favourite cashmere jumper (or shirt etc).

I find it Very hard to believe he's being so disrespectful and such a twat over a kids blanket but is not like this in any other way. It's a very extreme reaction to something as innocuous as just a blanket.

He's a nob. Only explanation. How can it be so much not to his taste that he would stop his children enjoying a super soft blanket that probably appeals a lot to them. Mean and disrespectful to you and mum. It can just be folded up each evening when they've gone to bed, he doesn't have to look at it constantly!

Are the kids attached to it, or would they be happy with whatever blanket was to hand? If the only reason you have it out is for your mum’s sake, then I would just move it to the kid’s room. Having a thin blanket to pop over them on a hot night is quite handy.

However if DH pulls the ‘accidentally gave it to the dog’ shit with anything else - he would find his favourite belongings in the dog bed.

I think there’s something fairly wrong with your husband if he can’t cope with a blanket he doesn’t like being folded up at the bottom of the settee. It’s a blanket ffs, how offensive can it be? Unless it’s got a swastika on it or something like that.

I’m assuming your kids are young so God help him when they start dressing in teen fashion, how will he cope with that?

Tell him to grow up. It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t like it - the kids like it, and your mother bought it, for a lot of money. So he just has to deal with it. Honestly he sounds pathetic.

He sounds really disrespectful. Not just to you but to your mum. What other seemingly innocuous things does he do? Can’t believe he’s only an arsehole over a blanket.

Does he have an issue with your mum at all? Maybe he dislikes the blanket so much because it's from your mum.

DH is wrong I think. However, if your mum found out, you could say the dog really loved it, etc.

Well he's had his chance. Every time he "forgets" give the dog one of his T-shirts. It's so hard to remember what belongs to the dog and what doesn't, after all.