Is it unreasonable to want a bit of time to myself?

[Iwantquiet]

34 weeks pregnant, hot, grumpy, very very tired due to broken/bad sleep.

DH has never taken our toddler anywhere alone much. I would love him just to take him out for a few hours to give me a proper rest. Bear in mind he does have a full on job in the week. I don’t think it is unreasonable but what’s the view?

Absolutely not unreasonable. You shouldn't even need to ask. Some men just have no idea!

How's he going to manage with no initiative when you're recovering from childbirth?

I would say it’s time for them to take a trip to the park together pronto, with instructions not to come back for at least an hour.

how come working full time gets him out of being a dad at the weekend then? What’s that all about?

Oh god not unreasonable at all. I'm 33 weeks pregnant and literally haven't shifted from bed yet I'm reading and enjoying the silence my husband has the others (including busy toddler) occupied. You definitely need some time to yourself or you'll crack.

The only unreasonable bit is that you've made a second baby with a man who doesn't pull his weight with the first one.

Of course he should be willing and able to look after his own child to give you a rest.

My DH took the toddler every Saturday morning throughout my second pregnancy.

Because that’s what parents do for their partners…

Cinema? DH can have a sit down and toddler will enjoy watching Peppa with an ice cream. Quite a few kids’ films on over half term.

Mine wouldn’t watch a film I don’t think. I don’t think it’s so much he doesn’t pull his weight but I honestly don’t think he has any understanding of how tiring this stage of pregnancy is.

Fgs this is ridiculous op. Ridiculous that he can't work that out for himself, ridiculous that he doesn't do it anyway, ridiculous that you can't say to him 'can you take Fred out to the park, I need a break.'
So you have a toddler and he's never taken them out alone, ever? That is absurd.

So just tell him, take the child out, I need space

So, then the problem is solved by saying 'DH, this stage of pregnancy is very tiring. You're going to have take the toddler out for a few hours each day to give me time to rest'. And he will obligingly do that because he's a good parent and a good husband.

Right OK, thanks.