To wonder if he has an agenda?

[FattyAirways]

My best friend and I fell out in January. He had told me the previous week that a night out might be happening with our other friends and that he would let me know. The day before the potential night out, I texted him to ask if it was happening and he said yes, that him and named other friends who were going. When I asked if I was invited, all he replied with was no. Upon further questioning he made a few excuses, he said some unkind things about my personality and we went to and fro with messages and then he blocked me!

We have since crossed paths on our commute around six times but he has always looked away very quickly or pretended not to see me, until recently when I was sat in an eatery, he walked past, saw I was in there and came in and we talked for a good ten minutes. I then messaged him on a social media platform that I am not on and said it was nice to see him and that I hoped he had a good evening. I didn't receive a reply. He sees the message though.

I think for him having seen me, made the effort to come and talk to me and then not message me back is really odd! Why would he do that? Any ideas into the working of his brain?

The thing is, if he came on here saying something like ’i have a friend who always puts everyone down/some other personality trait that people get sick of’ everyone would say get her out of your life. He may well have just done that.

without his side I really don’t think it’s fair for people to say he’s a narcissist and a bully etc

There’s no helping some people. Good luck OP, you’ll need it.

It's been really difficult not to contact him even though he's an arsehole, but I managed it all week not to text him.

Well done OP stay strong💐

@Greenflamesburn Thank you. I really miss him, especially at the weekends when we used to do things together.

Sound like you want to be more than just friends, he's picking up on that, but he's not interested.

Time to move on

Thank you for your advice everyone. He told me that the friendship is irreparable and that he only came in the eatery and sat and talked to me because he thought it childish not to. I can say with certainty that he saw me through the window sat there before he came in, still he chose to come in and talk to me. He had also walked past me many times and blanked me before then. Was that not childish to blank me all those times?

Anyway, i'm better out of that toxicity.

Much better off. The more you think about him and the iffs and whys the more he will stay in your head making it slower for you to heal and move on.

Thank you. My sadness is now anger. Him saying he only spoke to me so as not to appear childish. He's obviously playing a game. What an absolute arsehole. I hope karma is real.

Anger is good. Placing the blame on him and not yourself is good in this moment. Not worth wondering if he is playing a game and what his game is though… just ignore him. You are worth more than him

Thank you. Right now I don't care if I never see him again to be honest. I hope that feeling keeps up because since we fell out the feeling has been awful.