(Name changed for privacy and names are changed in the story too)
Bit of backstory - DH and I have been together 14 years (married 12), the first year we were together, we were young 21/22 years old and he drank A LOT. He cheated on me once and I had seen times when he would have if I'd not been there. All whenever he was wasted.
He quit t-total for years.
In the last few years it began with one drink on anniversaries, one on birthdays etc to now him drinking a lot (in my opinion) and roughly once a year (maybe twice) he has a blowout.
Promises to be home early, it's not a big night out and drags himself in the middle of the night, vomiting and unable to get out of bed for the rest of then next day.
He did this last night. But the last time he did this, I had to call his dad in the middle of the night to pick him up cos his phone battery was low and he's planning to walk a dual carriageway in the dark.
Last night, I left him to sort himself out and he rolled in at 2am, fell asleep on the sofa, putting the entire takeaway he ordered in the fridge (which now reeks).
The issue was that he was avoiding eye contact when he got home and then I found out that he had Facebook friend requested a young woman and my heart dropped. When he's sober he's a lovely man but when he's drunk, he's an absolute nightmare and I don't trust him.
I admit it, I assumed. He never friend requests anyone on Facebook.
He said it was his mate Adam's sister who came out to drive them back to the Adams house when Adam was too drunk to drive his car and the sister drove back to the pub to get their 3rd friend Dave, neither of them had Dave's number so Adam friend requested her off my husbands phone to get in touch with her...
I don't know what to think or do.
He thinks he deserves better than me accusing him of cheating.
I think that even if he didn't do anything that he's trying to make himself into the victim so I feel bad.