Friends expectations

[Mummyofbananas]

This is a bit of a lighthearted AIBU, I just need a vent.

I have 3 children- 10, 8 and 5. My friend has 4-, 8, 4(twins) and 1.

I'm currently really busy in work, working full time hours plus overtime. My husband works long hours so I do majority of school runs, I then have to pick kids up at night after work which means I don't get any owntime really until they're all in bed (normal I know I'm not complaining about that). My husband also works weekends most weeks so I generally have the kids most of the weekend or if he's off I work overtime.

My friend is on mat leave and when she does work it's 16 hours. Her husband also works long hours but is home evenings and weekends. She does have very early mornings with her youngest which I have sympathy for because that's not an issue I've had.

It's hard for both of us, as it is for all mums but she's always liked to complain that things are harder for her because she has an extra child, things cost more, she has more to do etc which I usually just ignore.

Recently we both started an exercise facebook thing. Every morning she gets up with her baby and does her exercises ( her kids get dropped off by family), then posts on the group.

I'm doing what I can but I physically don't have the time to do them every single day and when I do I'm not sitting putting it on facebook.

Today she's tagged me in the group to tell me I have to pull my weight and messaged me, with smiley faces saying she needed to pull me up because I obviously have enough time.

I'm very annoyed right now, and under a lot of pressure in everyway so I really didn't need it. I just needed a vent so I don't say something to her when I know she doesn't really mean anything bad by it.

AIBU for being annoyed I suppose

It's not clear what the group is for. Yes I get you're all following a particular routine but what do those who don't post get from it? I'm wondering if you might find it simpler doing things at your own pace rather than agreeing to do specific exercises every day when you can't.
Re your friends post, unless she has a history of previous bitchiness, I'd imagine her intention was to encourage you rather than shame you. Be irritated by all means, just tell her not to post publicly. Who actually sees the posts?

Rise above and ignore. If she mentions it, smile fondly and say you’d love to have enough time on your hands to notice Facebook, let alone update it.

Thanks everyone just wanted to get it off my chest so I didn’t fall out with her. I know she means no harm just really irritating.

I know you don't want to fall out with her, but I think you should pull her up - because she's been quite rude.

You don't have to go nuclear. I'd put a reply on her comment along the lines of "Thanks Jan. I do actually have quite a lot of other stuff going on so I do the best I can and I am happy going at my own pace, so I'd prefer you didn't "encourage" me."