Partner and I, 15 years and counting. Know minimal parts about his past including ex wife’s etc. the last wedding was in an India isle, questionable about the legality. He’s always told her and me it wasn’t legal when she looked at divorce as all they did was exchange feathers and leaves, no paperwork to prove otherwise. Him and I move to Spain recently and the laws here are very explicit that everything goes to the marital partner. We are considering the future as we own the house half and half, his savings, my savings and his pension etc. It’s not been a problem until I mentioned it a few weeks ago and he did a snivelling nose look and said ‘oh actually it might be legal’ after 15 years of 100% saying the wedding was not legal. And now I mention it to discuss as will have a huge impact on me and he gets angry, defensive and I get told I didn’t say that, you are imagining it and that I’ve had too much to I drink and am looking for a fight (2.5 glasses of wine)
I don’t know what to do. He’s a dick, he’s always been a dick but the goodness in him makes up for it. This just seems too important when I may be left alone in a foreign country alone with no money or housing to let this issue lie? Him being married to her is huge!
This isn’t so much an AIBU but more a please help me. I don’t know what to do.