@Dyerun it us always worth paying in to a pension because of the Govt tax relief that gets added. If you kept that money instead of putting it in a pension you’d be taxed on it so would see less of it anyway. And it’s far better to have a smell pot in old age than no pot.
OP, I feel for you, it is hard- but you’ve got more in your pot than I do, and I’m 37. DH is 37 and has just £17k!!
He’s a high earner, and we at last managed to get on the property ladder at 35, which is something.
It is always, always worth putting in to a pension. With the amount you’re putting away you could retire on a decent pot at 66. As you get older and hopefully earn more/get promoted you can add more to it. Or look for a job in the public sector where pensions are still generally more generous.
As to buying a property, keep saving for a deposit, ask parents if they could help you out (I know not everyone’s can, ours could but only post retirement and £12k each which we’re going to repay!) and keep looking around for 1 bed flats (beware new builds with their attendant leasehold/cladding issues).
Good luck OP. I’ve been there re housing and it feels so frustrating, but you’re still young enough to buy and build a big pension pot. Don’t give up.