To think this date isn't going ahead?

[nostigma]

I have a date tomorrow night with someone I know from out and about. Have been in a bit of contact, but not constant.

I had a babysitter for tomorrow night but that has fallen through. I text him this morning just saying, 'hey what is the plans for tomorrow night?' - there has been no response - fine.

However, he has been on Facebook and the only reason I know that as I can't see other peoples active status and they can see mine, is because I posted something and he liked it a few hours after I had sent him the message.

I'm not one to obsess but I don't want to arrange another sitter for my son for nothing. If it was a weekend that my son was with his dad then I'd be quite happy to wait for a response/play it by ear.

I suppose he's not a mind reader though and isn't to know all this.

Don't want to come across as desperate texting again. Was thinking to wait until about 9 pm tonight and if I don't hear anything, assume it's cancelled. If he gets back to me after then just explain the situation?

Any advice?

Your plan is fine. Don't text him again.

I would be annoyed tho cos presumably he knows you have a child.

Why don't you ring instead of text?

Find that nerve wracking and too forward to be honest after texting him.

He might not yet have a plan for your date, so is thinking about it?
Liking your post indicates that he wants you to know he’s thinking about you.

He knows I have a child, but he thinks my childcare is sorted. Haven't explained to him that it's fallen through as was hoping to get it sorted. However, no point if it's not going ahead.

@nostigma that's a valid point. I hate phoning people too.
It's a bit weird he hasn't text back.

Some people are just slower at answering messages. Also, the question ‘what’s the plan?’ does put onus on him to think up times and details. It’s a tougher text to quickly answer than ‘are we still on for tomo?’

I'd follow up with "let me know whether we are still on by [x time], i need to confirm childcare or not"

It's equally possible that he's assuming it's still on, and thought "what is the plans" meant details about timings, meeting point, which restaurant - in which case he might be waiting till later to have a moment to make a proper plan.

Maybe he doesn’t have a plan yet - your communication skills aren’t great op; why didn’t you ask if it was still on then you could rearrange a babysitter?

You could always send a follow up message to say something like "my childcare has fallen through - let me know if we are still on for tomorrow and I'll see if I can sort something else out."

This puts the onus on him to let you know and, if he doesn't, you won't waste time looking for another babysitter or whatever