Hello everyone just trying to get some opinions and advice here on a subject which has been ongoing for 10 years and very upsetting.
My wife’s family have always treated one grandchild better than any others. This child is not the oldest so it’s not a first grandchild thing. They constantly share photos (20+) of days out with said child/ family, days child has visited or they have come to our village to visit the family. They only come to see us if they are visiting this family they do not ask to see us unless they happen to already have plans with them and if we do see them it is less than an hour and they’re gone. We are not asked to visit them nor if they could see/facetime our kids. They do not make the effort to see us adults on our birthdays but expect us to do this for them (we no longer bother). They do visit the other family on the day of their birthdays go out for meals etc.
we have explained to them how left out this makes us feel and how bias they are towards this grandchild leaving our child out (and at the age he’s noticing grandpa and nan were with cousin this weekend) as we have physically bumped into them and felt very awkward. They continue to favour and have not seen our child in 6 months and see the family every other weekend.
Aibu to ask my wife to mention this again to them or to cut these people off as they do not support us and I feel they are treating my family as an accessory when they can be bothered with us.
sorry for the long post
J