to think it's really hard to find clothes

[frecklemcspeckles]

for a 14 year old girl who has some sensory processing issues that means she likes things loose fitting and comfortable?
Apologies not quite an aibu but I'm posting for traffic as I'm struggling to find clothes that my non "girly" teen with SPD will wear.

Tops tend to be fitted or in pastel colours and shorts are much shorter than she's comfortable with. I had been buying small men's clothes e.g. Trackies and tshirts but she's actually quite curvy now so her hips don't suit them. She's also small so men's clothes are too long She's somewhere between a UK 10 and a 12 (normally buy 12 in ladies to get it less fitted).
She gets quite distressed with the feeling of tight clothes and rough materials when we are trying to find clothes and says she hates how she looks so I'm really trying to support her and be as positive as I can.
I'd be really grateful for any suggestions of where I can try to get things that may work.

Noone any suggestions 😢

Perhaps post this in the style and beauty section tomorrow? The women on there really know their clothes!

I like loose fitting and comfy clothes. I buy baggy or oversized t-shirts which you can buy from most high street shops - sizing up can to a 14 might help her if she wants them baggier.

On the bottom half I tend to wear loose fitting clothes with a stretchy waistband as this is comfiest for me - jogging bottoms, harem pants, cargo pants etc or maxi skirts.

I also find stretchy dresses to be comfortable in warmer weather.

Agree you should ask again in Style and Beauty section.

I buy loose fitting t shirts from H&M. Don’t buy from the teenage section but the women’s section (the sizing is bigger in the women’s section). They have lots of loose fitting t shirts

If you’re happy to buy online, I would also recommend this place for loose fitting t shirts and t shirt dresses https://rapanuiclothing.com/collection/womens-plain-t-shirts-jumpers/

Have you checked out co-ords? Athleisure wear is still in and so should be east enough to find some comfortable and loose fitting stuff!

For trousers - have you tried running leggings? Thicker than normal leggings so you can wear them as trousers, but elasticated at the waist so they dont dig. buy on the large size

another option could be harem pants?

Oh and finally - check out the modesty sections of high street chains! Lots of king, flowy things

*long - not king!

I would size up to a 12 or even a 14 for baggy tee-shirts, or you could go for small men's tops. Go for super-soft cotton every time.

For bottoms, Next and New Look both have lovely soft yoga pants-type stretchy trousers. Matalan harem pants are also soft and stretchy.

I wonder if Monki might suit her? Lots of oversized fits and also natural fibres which tend to be softer to wear. I’m a 10/12 and generally get size small in tops and dresses, but she might prefer medium for a more relaxed fit.

Lands End do some very comfortable clothes in Supima cotton. It's really smooth, almost silky. They also do very basic styles, like polo shirts in block colours, cut for female curves. They have very frequent sales.

Thank you all so much, I really appreciate the responses. She doesn't like leggings at all, finds them too tight. And harem pants she just says no to even though I reckon she'd find them comfy.
I absolutely love lands end @Dilbertian and we have managed to order from the boys section there but not anything from ladies or girls. And she's at that crossover age.

Will check out Monki, it's not one I've heard of thank you @Judystilldreamsofhorses. @PonyPatter44 weve tried sizing up she just doesn't like anything on her. We did get a dress recently that was aged 15 and she wore it for about an hour but then needed it off.
@ShirleyPhallus what do you mean by co-ords thank you? She lives in football shirts and shorts at the moment.

@Ohalpro that looks interesting thanks. I haven't seen them before. Will check it out.

Matalan have loads of loose fit style tops at the morning in the womens section. I didn't have proper look as I didn't need shorts but the shorts in there were of a longer style

JD Williams has 'soft touch' jersey items which are very soft.

@frecklemcspeckles co-ords means co ordinating sets, Google it as loads of lounge wear options comes up and lots of teenagers wear this kind of thing

I like things loose fitting and comfortable. I wear size 10-12.

How tall is she? I'm sometimes too tall for size 10-12 (or "under fat").
I get most my clothes in charity shops. You find every possible style there.

Hey OP, just wanted to say you’re not alone. I have a dc with similar issues around clothing. New look online has a substantial teen section which often has acceptable (long, loose, not pastel etc) options - we had loads of success recently with 3 (yes 3!!!) pairs of trousers and 4 T-shirts in a single order. Can you tell I’m still feeling pleased with myself?! Otherwise some good suggestions on here, and I also regularly check Asda and Tesco clothing…every so often there’s a total gem. Good luck!

Urban outfitters do lovely oversized t shirts in a soft material. I've bought loads from Vinted.

Have you looked at Uniqlo? A lot of it is "basics" type stuff in natural fabrics. They do lovely soft tracksuits And it's a Japanese brand so if she's smaller, it won't swamp her and its cool styles and prints too so she won't feel like she's dressed differently.

It’s extremely difficult. We have the added wrinkle that dd is petite so finding things that fit is challenging.

I would buy things from the boys section and then take them to a seamstress to be taken up/in.

New look ladies section has lots of colours and styles of mix and match hoodies - my dd is 14, 5ft6 and wears a 6-8 and a small is fine on her (nicely loose without drowning her)

Can’t help I’m afraid but I hear you. Been through this when daughter was younger. Manage to a better extent now, and she will now wear tighter clothes like jeans and occasionally leggings. But school shirts are our problem now!