Pushing in bus mum

[GingerCoi]

Waited in bus queue for ten mins with DD2 in pushchair, a few in front of me, including a man with a walking frame. Bus arrives, queue begins to move forward. Mum with pushchair comes in from the side and pushes in, in front of disabled chap, who permits this. Quite rightly, man with frame takes one disabled area. Pushchair mum takes the other, meaning I have to fold mine down and sit elsewhere. I just find it so rude. WWYD? Say something or not. Wouldn't have got me the space back as no way she was moving.

She sounds very entitled.

God I’m so glad I don’t have my pram anymore. I remember waiting for the bus and another bus came (that I didn’t need) woman with pram gets off it and waits at the bus stop, my bus came she wanted it too so whilst I went on the front she hopped on the back and took the last space as one was already on! I do say something but they don’t usually care they usually argue that they was right, I find most mums with prams don’t wait and just think it’s a case of whoever was quicker

I wouldn't have bothered saying anything. How old was her child?

I would probably tut and be inwardly annoyed, but not say anything.

Imagine that she is having the worst day of her life and that getting a spot on the bus is the little win she needed and you helped a fellow mum achieve that.

Of course, it is possible that she has a hidden disability and needed the seat. But probable that she was just knackered and desperate.

Why didn't you say anything at the time? I don't really understand the problem, you got a seat. Given all the threads on here re mums and prams, everyone should be folding them down anyway.

I think everyone is meant to fold down pushchairs. But yes, she was being cheeky and knew it. Try not to let it stew in your head all day, as frustrating as it was.

Why did nobody say 'excuse me, there's a queue' when your woman started to shove in?

Jesus christ, is expecting adults to use their words considered too much these days?

Hmm it's not a major issue, I acknowledge. I did get a seat. Other mum's DC looking a similar age to mine. She got him out and sat him.on her knee, leaving the pushchair up.

I almost always fold mine down on the bus - in fact, did I big bus and train journey last week and did so the whole way. Today I thought I'd keep it up if I could, since everyone else seems to, it's really warm here and I hurt my shoulder last week lifting it to the luggage rack plus DD on other arm. DD is also in a "leg it" phase, making putting the pushchair down and stopping her from running tricky! However, I still queued. I didn't mention any of this before because frankly, it's not remotely relevant. You join the queue at the back. That's how it works. If you want to queue jump for a decent reason, you ask politely if people mind. I really hope it's not the case, as a pp said, that most mums don't bother queuing and it's a free for all with the quickest queue jumper winning. That's a crap message to teach your kids, if nothing is else.

I didn't say anything at the time because there was no point making a scene when it wouldn't have made a difference by that point anyway. Just wondered what others thought and it seems that rude and entitled behaviour is ok for most of you.

I'd assume she was having issues today. I mean she might not but I like to think the best of people

She genuinely didn't look as though she was having issues - not remotely flustered, just waiting to one side then moved forward to put her pushchair in front of the disabled man, no apology, no acknowledgement, who let her go but didn't have much choice tbf. I appreciate you can't always tell if someone is having issues - she had no way of knowing if I was having issues myself. I think she just saw another pushchair plus the man with the frame and decided she'd be having that space.

Just ask her if she can Google how queues work when she's got a minute as you get off the bus. Chances are she does it all the time and noone says a word

Sadly, manners to many are a bygone expectation.
I've given up sarcastically saying thank you to people who don't bother when I hold a door for them.
Someone pushing in a bus queue shows how lazy they are, too special to fold a buggy or get in a queue and probably the type to throw a hissy fit if someone in a wheelchair got on and needed the space
It just smacks of chav to have no concept of basic manners and politeness.

I’d have had to say something. My sense of fairness wouldn’t have permitted me not to (it’s actually a bit of a pain as it kicks in even for things that don’t affect me or matter!)

Sorry, this has just given me an excuse to rant about an incident last year in Athens!
All waiting for one of those open top tourist double deckers. A reasonable queue when this middle aged couple arrive. He’s got a walking stick and shuffling awkwardly, so understandably plonks himself down on some rocks by the pavement whilst she joins the line.
As is usual in the Med, as soon as the bus arrives, forget queueing, everyone surges forward - including Mr Walking Stick. His wife muscles her way to the bus steps, then demands (in English) that he is let on first because he’s disabled. He’s not the only person with mobility issues/push chairs on the tour, but apparently he was the most important one. The tour guide lets them on - and the pair of them leg it straight up the narrow twisting stairs, walking stick tucked under arm and nab the front seats at the top. I mean, literally run up the steps!
Being very British, I just chuntered to DH about it but wife of the other couple we were travelling with went straight up and remarked directly to them that they didn’t seem very disabled. These two had such brass necks, they stared ahead and then pretended they didn’t speak English.

Apologies, but I needed to offload! 😂

I have been known to proclaim "The invisibility cloak! IT WORKS!" at supermarket queue pushers.