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Do you send your dc to nursery if they're unwell?

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mummybones22 · 23/05/2023 22:35

Not infectious obviously, that goes without saying. But if they have been unwell with something and are on the mend but still tired, not eating properly, not fully themselves would you send them in? Debating with dh who thinks dd should go tomorrow morning even though she's at the tail end of a viral bug that has totally wiped her out. I think one more day at home would probably be best as the noise and fuss of nursery will probably exhaust her all over again. I kind of think when they're unwell and recovering they need quiet, rest and home comforts. However it will mean one of us staying off work again.

What's your take on it? Clearly I'm not talking about sending a seriously sick child or one that is infectious into school or nursery just to be clear.

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SomeNights · 23/05/2023 22:38

How do you know she's no longer infectious?

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 23/05/2023 22:39

Send them back as soon as i can

Spiderboy · 23/05/2023 22:43

Ages 2/3 - if I have the luxury to keep them at home to rest for a day, then I will. They are still so little. DD is 4 now and I am a little more persistent if it is a case of a cough, snots and grumpiness on a morning. I work from home though and when they’re poorly and tired, even at such a young age, I can still work at 90%. If i had a different job it would be back ASAP

PinkPlantCase · 23/05/2023 22:43

Yes DC go back as soon as they can.

We follow the rules for tummy bugs and don’t send if he has a temperature or is very obviously poorly but apart from that we need to work so DC needs to go to nursery. 🤷‍♀️

Jellos · 23/05/2023 22:43

Temperature and / or lethargic then no way would I send to nursery. For a cold, probably would send in.

if your little one has been very poorly and still isn’t 100 percent then unless you have to send them in I’d give them another day off.

You need to trust what your instincts are telling you.

ChickenBurgers · 23/05/2023 22:45

If you can keep her off, keep her off. She’ll get better quicker being at home. But, I appreciate if it means losing wages the ideal isn’t always possible.

MuffinToSeeHere · 23/05/2023 22:47

Honestly yes he goes back as soon as possible because he will inevitably catch another bug or illness from nursery and then I'll need to have more time off and all those days add up. It's not even like it only happens because he's not 100% better, it's just the nursery way unfortunately and even if I kept him off until he was in tip top shape it will still inevitably happen.

misspositivepants · 23/05/2023 22:47

i think it depends on the child my eldest was quite stoic and bounce back quickly from illness if he wasn’t 100% he’d still be ok at nursery with an early night.

my youngest needed that extra day or his illness was extended and he’d be even more miserable he definitely needed home comforts.

Whereisthesun99 · 23/05/2023 23:38

As a childminder I would only accept a child back if they were eating/ drinking normally again and able to take part in the day’s activities. If they were unable to take part they would need to stay at home . I have called parents to collect children before when they had been quite clearly been dosed up on calpol ready for drop off and even had parents expect me to change my plans, cancel activities and stay in all day so there little one can be in the warm and just sleep, err hope I am not your nanny why should everyone else miss out on said activity etc

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/05/2023 23:47

I’d keep them off. You know your instincts are right.

Going back a day too early can often prolong the illness in my experience.

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mummybones22 · 24/05/2023 06:57

Thanks all.

She slept a lot better last night after nearly a week of constant waking and crying. However she still hasn't eaten a drank a great deal and I think a day at nursery is likely to set her recovery back so I'll see if I can wfh today.

She hasn't got a temperature and hasn't had any sickness or diarrhoea. She's had light cold symptoms but the GP seemed to think it was a throat or ear issue which can be incredibly painful. Hopefully she will have a long nap later and let me get some work done!

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avocadotofu · 24/05/2023 07:09

Running nose yes. Anything more serious no.

Ecosl · 24/05/2023 07:36

The nursery my dc went to were happy to have them back if they could participate in normal activities as they couldn't have one child needing sleep in a corner with supervision while the others were outside playing needing supervision.

I usually kept home if I could so they could have a chance of not picking up the next thing!

Spottypineapple · 24/05/2023 07:50

Our nursery have a definition of a 'well child' - basically if they are not eating or drinking properly, need more sleep or generally more likely to need 121 care then you're not meant to send them in, Infectious or not. Agree with PP as she's so small Im more inclined to keep her off

MooseBreath · 24/05/2023 07:51

I'd send back 48 hours after last bout of sickness/temperature if the children is feeling well. I would keep lethargic at home, but mine has been known to eat minimally for weeks after illness, so wouldn't wait for appetite to return.

Runny/stuffy nose and a cough, I would send them in unless they are lethargic. Colds are unfortunately par for the course with children.

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