Who should pay?

[Helendee]

We are going away for a break next week with with our daughter, her partner and our granddaughters.
At the time of booking they didn’t have any pets but have since acquired a puppy which they’ve asked to bring along. I’m not really a dog lover but we didn’t want the little chap to be put in kennels so agreed to it.
We have to give a £250 deposit to cover damages which is fair enough but I feel it’s only likely to be the dog that will damage anything and so I asked if they would give their credit card details for the deposit.
My daughter’s partner is incredibly tight with money and I know I will be very lucky if he were to reimburse me for damages caused. He is not happy about putting his card through though.
AIBU?

Just saw your additional update - it sounds even worse! I’d be putting my energies into getting her away from this abusive man not going on holiday with him.

My daughter does work, very hard but is not well paid and her money goes in the twins and her own personal bills.
He pays for their mortgage and food and that’s why she stays I believe.
Where else would she get decent housing these days? He has a desperately unhealthy relationship with money but isn’t a bad person and he is actually a very good dog owner.

Then she needs a better job. Can you help her with that?

I’d just brazenly say it to dd and her dp: “you want to bring the puppy; no one else is likely to damage anything; it’s only a hold on the card just in case but it makes no sense for it to be on our card as any damage the puppy does you’ll have to repay us, so you may as well just accept the charges on your card in the first place.”

if he’s tight, stepping lightly won’t get you anywhere. And if he says no then tell him the puppy can’t come then.

Agree. Dog doesn’t come or they pay the security deposit.

It is a damages deposit, I presume there would be a hold whether the dog is there or not so I don’t really see the logic that they need to provide the card for it. I also don’t see how you can be so sure that if there is any damage it will be done by the dog. My dogs have never damaged anything, far more likely that I would drop a plate or spill something than my dogs would damage something.

The point is, if there is damage done by the dog and the OP has paid the damage deposit she doesn't think that her son-in-law is going to reimburse her. That's probably also true if damage is done by him or OP's daughter or granddaughter. And if that's the case then why shouldn't he put down the damage deposit? OP can always pay him back if she or her husband does any damage.

Thank you everyone.
A, somewhat reluctantly (😁) gave his card details in so problem solved.
Thanks for the replies.