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Scared to hand notice in

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Mrsblobby12 · 23/05/2023 14:25

I know I'm ridiculous and need to grow up. I've got valid reasons to resign from the job and have also been advised on here to do so.
It's not like I've never quit a job before. It's a shame it's only after 5 months, but it happens sometimes.
I feel like I'm letting residents down (work in a care home).
The management have been positive about me and have said I'm a good member of staff.
However ultimately I know I'm just a number to them and it's just about having staffing numbers on shift.
It's a very small, gossipy care home. 2 months ago I was signed off for a few days, when I went back pretty much everyone knew why, and that is not right.
I can do without the gossip, I'm lucky that it's only a week's notice and I don't even have an employment contract.
I need to just do it don't I.
Has anyone else felt like this.

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chocolateisavegetable · 23/05/2023 20:55

Change is scary, but often absolutely worth it. Allow yourself to feel nervous, but also praise yourself for having the courage to look after yourself and getting away from that negative environment.

marshmallowmatcha · 23/05/2023 21:01

They won't even think of you a week later

Hellandhighwaters · 23/05/2023 21:11

Just do it. I know it’s really hard, but sometimes you just know a position is not right for you. I wanted to reply as I handed in my notice last year after four months in a new job that was not for me. I knew I’d made a mistake almost straight away and agonised about leaving after such a short amount of time.

Luckily I’d been approached by a new employer about a new job whilst in the role I hated and had a new job to go (which I’m still in and love). I felt sick in the run up to handing in my notice and hated making the phone call to let my boss know I was leaving (I worked remotely). My manager was ok, but made an unhelpful comment about the impact of my leaving on one of my colleagues which was really unprofessional. I also did not enjoy working the necessary four weeks notice, but the relief after handing in my notice was instant and I didn’t look back once I left. Life is too short. Good luck !!

HumphreysCorner · 23/05/2023 21:18

This was me in April after 5 months in a job that wasn't working out for me. Was called into the office and told how disappointed they were in me and I joined at the wrong time. I've not looked back.

Peppermint81 · 23/05/2023 21:20

Get another position lined up first - it will make it much easier for you to leave!

Atethehalloweenchocs · 23/05/2023 21:20

Not unreasonable to feel nervous. But very unreasonable to not act because of it. Good luck.

singswithitsfingers · 23/05/2023 21:20

Sorry to hear about your situation. Do you have a new job lined up? Can you afford not to work for a while?

BluebellBlueballs · 23/05/2023 21:22

I've been wanting to hand my notice in for the past 12 months, knew the job was wrong a few weeks in and hated it ever since. Unfortunately I need to get another job first and there aren't many around.

Can you get another job quickly, if so just do it.

BlameItOnTheGoose · 23/05/2023 21:27

I've always felt nervous resigning from jobs. I don't know why, it's not rational. I think stems from a misguided notion that I shouldn't let my employer down. I can image that working in care means it might be even more of a conundrum given that there are vulnerable people who rely on staff etc.

But OP it sounds like you have very valid reasons for wanting to leave so keep your chin up and just play it professionally.

Bloops · 23/05/2023 21:45

I had to psych myself up big time to resign from mine last month! Even for a couple days after, I was pretty self conscious about it all and wondered what people thought of me. Then I realised I was being utterly ridiculous 😂
Get it done, the week will fly by!!!

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Mrsblobby12 · 23/05/2023 21:51

Thanks so much for your answers. I sent the resignation email today, it's done now.
To the PP, I can't believe they chastised you for giving your notice in, how rude of them!

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mostlysunnywithshowers · 23/05/2023 22:00

I actually think management makes all the difference between making a difficult job doable and just adding unnecessary stress to your life. I quit my previous job partly due to better options elsewhere, and partly because of the way the job was being managed. Bad managers also make notice periods very stressful, but you won't look back!

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Mrsblobby12 · 24/05/2023 13:37

Yes you're right.
I've had no reply to my resignation, I'm due in to work this evening, and I feel sick to my stomach. I've only got 3 days left there did to having some annual leave booked.
I'm tempted to just ring in sick for those 3 days but I know that's not the right thing to do. I feel sick with anxiety but I just need to deal with it

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Conkersinautumn · 24/05/2023 13:40

I'm surprised if it is only a week. I did four months from my notice to actually stopping work in my last care role.

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Mrsblobby12 · 24/05/2023 13:42

We haven't got a contract of employment and it's a zero hours role, so I'm giving the statutory minimum of one week.

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