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To love the idea of changing my voice?

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NiceSausage · 23/05/2023 13:38

I don't mean accent or dialect, I've never really had a pronounced accent, and don't speak in a particularly regional way.
I think I mean the 'sound' of my voice, the tone perhaps, it's difficult to explain!

I have a very quick manner of speaking, as the words tumble over themselves, which I would love to slow down and refine a bit. Sometimes my voice sounds muffled, but it is more the manner I am concerned with, I have always loved considered, soft tones.
People often say changing our voice is tantamount to 'becoming someone else' but I don't see it that way. It isn't about social status or impressing other people. It's such a personal thing, and we certainly don't feel bad/ashamed about changing our hair colour, clothing style or teeth, so why the sound of our voice?

Perhaps it is a tricky conversation due to cultural presumptions - how regional accents were less respected and still are in some circles and professions, but this isn't what I am concerned with. For me, it is about expressing another, more relaxed part of my personality - maybe because I have changed a lot in recent years and left an unhealthy relationship, and have come to realise that most things about us are the result of our experiences, and are not necessarily positive! For me, my voice is a part of that, and I feel this strong urge to alter it.

This is a genuine thing and not about shame or snobbishness. I hope that makes sense!

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eurochick · 23/05/2023 20:03

I've done a taster session with an executive coach who focuses on presentation skills. A lot of that was about the voice, as well as body language.

Women often speak quickly because they are afraid of "taking up space". It's the vocal equivalent of men man spreading and women taking up a small space on the train. There was lots of useful stuff in her session.

NiceSausage · 23/05/2023 20:39

First ive heard of 'man spreading'! Must google this. I can see your point eurochick, food for thought. Some things become so natural to us we don't notice them. The more we notice the more it irritates people.

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