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To not want to read really shit books to my baby?

234 replies

CooCooCaChu · 22/05/2023 20:25

I've got an eight month old baby. We've got lots of really basic baby books. You know the kind, red circle on one page, blue triangle on the next. Or the endless 'that's not my ...'.

I find it incredibly boring to keep going 'oh look, this is a cow. Moooo.'

If I don't read these basic books, will she miss out on something important developmentally? Or can I skip straight to things with more of a narrative so I don't feel the need to stab myself in the eye just to create a bit of excitement?

Yabu you need to spend hours reading 'here is a car, brum brum'
Yanbu read something more fun, your baby will probably enjoy it more anyway

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bossybloss · 22/05/2023 22:30

GoodChat · 22/05/2023 20:35

We've always done the kids short stories that you get like 10 for £10 in the works.

The shapes and animals etc are better when they can interact

Yes!

A few nursery rhyme books too

Sugarfree23 · 22/05/2023 22:31

Dummycrusher · 22/05/2023 22:27

NEVER let a book with puzzle pieces built into it enter your house. EVER.

I said up thread, dated talkabout books were the only books I'd binned, jigsaw books may have come to the same fate.
They are horrendous blinking things.

Noisy books are charity shop fodder

TheKeatingFive · 22/05/2023 22:33

NEVER let a book with puzzle pieces built into it enter your house. EVER.

Solid parenting advice here

MrFlobby · 22/05/2023 22:34

Yeah those books are much more fun when they’re toddlers and copy what you say and then remember some. To a baby… blergh, boring. Not to brag but… I can recite Julia Donaldsons stick man word for word without opening one page, so yeah.

Panjandrum123 · 22/05/2023 22:40

We mixed in the That’s Not My style of books with things like The Baby Who Wouldn’t Go to Bed, Aliens Love Underpants and Hairy McLairy (these are grand for the rhythms of speech), The Tiger Who Came to Tea. Anything by Helen Cooper, Julia Donaldson & Axel Schaefer.

(I deeply loathed the Biff, Chip & Kipper books they read at school)

EmptyBedBlues · 22/05/2023 22:56

NorthFaceofthelaundrypile · 22/05/2023 20:27

DC used to love hearing me read, one holiday, when they were about 2, I read them Game of Thrones because that was what I was reading.
Doesn’t seem to have caused any lasting damage.

Exactly. Read your baby whatever you’re reading. I was writing an essay on an Irish mid-century short story writer while I was on maternity leave, so baby DS got a lot of rural angst and smalltown widowhood, with visual stimulation courtesy of whatever was on in Tate Modern. His dislike of spiders might be from too much Louise Bourgeois.

Layer we moved on to Enid Blyton edited to be less sexist. ‘No,’ said Anne, ‘Why don’t YOU make nice heathery beds in the cave, Ju, while George and I track the villains?’

ImNotAsThinkAsYouDrunkIAm · 22/05/2023 22:59

Those of you who hate Biff, Chip and Kipper have obviously never had the joy of the Read Write Inc reading scheme books, where every word has to be phonetically decodable. I miss Biff, Chip and Kipper.

CooCooCaChu · 22/05/2023 23:02

I will follow up some of the suggestions as there's a few I've not heard of.

I'm not sure if I was clear in the original post, as some people have misunderstood. I'm absolutely fine with reading picture books with some semblance of a story, nursery rhymes etc. Love Hairy McClary, Mog etc and have happily read these millions of times to older DCs.

It's specifically the ones with no words, just a picture of a ball on one page and a kite on the next that I hate. I have been given/acquired loads over the years and a recent visitor (being vague for anonymity) was outraged that I wasn't spending time going over them with my baby and was very certain that just letting them listen to books I'm reading the older DCs would be really harmful. Glad for the reassurance this is not the case!

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Ihatepickingausername3 · 22/05/2023 23:33

We read both baby books and slightly longer more interesting kids ones… to be honest at that age they would’ve been more than happy for me to just read them my book

SmileyClare · 22/05/2023 23:45

The basic baby toddler books with “no words- a picture of a ball on one page and a kite” are designed for babies to play with or look at when they’re amusing themselves really. That’s why they’re made from thick sturdy (indestructible) cardboard.

I can’t imagine many parents read them as a bedtime story for an 8 month old.

Once your baby is able to identify a simple picture, form some basic one syllable words and link that word to an image of the object, they have some educational use, in the same way a “flash card” is used to teach the basics of language to a beginner.

Simple sounds repeated and linked to an image can help develop the first attempts at speech.

converseandjeans · 22/05/2023 23:50

Mine used to love You Choose by Nick Sharatt & some of the others are good.

Try the Julia Donaldson ones. Things like Gruffalo & Stick Man.

DD used to love the Maisy books. Lift the flap one was good.

SmileyClare · 22/05/2023 23:50

That being said, baby books aren’t essential for speech or language development!

Parents naturally point to everyday objects and repeat the noun for babies to learn, as I’m sure you do.

CheeseTouch · 22/05/2023 23:55

Do use the library to ease your boredom. But toddlers have favorites often - books read to them since they were babies, so I would keep a few of the better ones on repeat.

HedgehogB · 23/05/2023 00:00

Try Peepo! , Dear Zoo, Each Peach Pear Plum , DS loved these from very tiny. The pictures and the rhythm of the text. He loved the pictures in much ‘older’ books like Beatrix potter even as a 1 year old. Just read what you like to them. I found the very tiny baby books dull and I think DS did too at a very young age. I honestly don’t think it matters as long as there is something colourful to point at and discuss . It’s the act of sitting and reading together that is the most important thing. A great one is ‘first thousand words’ there’s hundreds of things to point at and name. Google usborne toddler books there are so many.

HedgehogB · 23/05/2023 00:01

LeatherSkirt82 · 22/05/2023 21:20

We did have 'this is not my...' books and I too hated them with passion (DH didn't so they were his 'domain'). I love Rachel Bright/Jim Field books and am never bored reading those (dd is 3.5). I also read her B. Potter books since she was a baby... Did not notice any adverse impact - if anything she has a good vocabulary and loves books.

Same! Beatrix potter from a few months old, DS loved them

IWasOlderThen · 23/05/2023 00:03

ImNotAsThinkAsYouDrunkIAm · 22/05/2023 22:11

This reminded me of when I was listening to an audiobook when my youngest was a a baby. It was read by an American with a really droning tone. It would, unfailingly, send the baby to sleep. It became my -
slightly strange - secret weapon!

I had a pair of guinea pigs who loved the political broadcasts on radio 4. Seriously. My other piggies have all preferred music stations.

Sugarfree23 · 23/05/2023 00:07

SmileyClare · 22/05/2023 23:50

That being said, baby books aren’t essential for speech or language development!

Parents naturally point to everyday objects and repeat the noun for babies to learn, as I’m sure you do.

Exactly- and I'm sure children learn better that's a cow when one is pointed out in a field than they do from seeing a cartoon picture in a book.

But also things change and those books date very badly.

Caramelsmadfuzzytail · 23/05/2023 00:10

I read the Mr men books to mine.

DemiColon · 23/05/2023 02:37

I think a lot of babies aren't that interested in books, and it's find not to read them if that's the case. You can just talk and interact in other ways. Singing IMO is as good for babies as reading.

But there are some great kids books, I would keep a look out and try those. Don't read crap books.

Judgyjudgy · 23/05/2023 02:42

They might seem crap to you, but some of them have words that interest babies, its something about the sound and repetition. Whatever you read, read to your baby. And therr are so many great books out there! Babies grow to have a love of books early and it is really good for them later in life as well (avid reader since being a baby myself!), my DS also loved books since he was born, he started crawling at four months to get to his bookshelf 😅

MintJulia · 23/05/2023 02:51

At the moment, you are in control and can choose. As long as you are reading something to her and talking to her, she'll be fine.

Wait until your dc can decide what she wants to hear. You'll get to the point you can recite Room on the Broom with your eyes shut. Which means at least you can rest your eyes. 😁

bussteward · 23/05/2023 03:02

I’m very grateful DD has memorised lots of her books: she reads them to the baby while I have a cup of tea and piss about on the internet.

Current favourites in this house are Barbara Throws a Wobbler and Beast Feast. Also one written in made-up insect language in case you want to develop your baby’s language skills into bug speak.

SparklyBlackKitten · 23/05/2023 03:11

At this age you read them ANY kind of book YOU want

Alice and wonderland. Or Harry Potter.

Fudge all these ridiculously boring baby books. And even when your kid is a bit older you still don't have to read all these simple mind-numbing books.

You can do it for playtime I guess

But for bed time. Read whatever
You are not limited to only good night moon or what noise the cow makes :)

GoodChat · 23/05/2023 06:46

But also things change and those books date very badly.

Yeah we've been given some older story books where I've gotten to a point in a story and just though 'oh god' and made the rest up as certain parts are just no longer appropriate

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