Shall I end this friendship?

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I've known this woman for nearly 12 years, our daughters are same age, grew up together. I feel like I'm being a bit mugged off by her at the minute, last Tues I walked her dogs for her in the day as she had to go to see her dad miles away, then at 3.30 I'm being phoned to pick her daughter up from school 5 miles away as she's forgotten her bus pass even though she said her husband was working locally. Her daughter wasn't even where she was supposed to be when I got there and when I did eventually find her all I got was attitude. She came round with flowers and chocolates as way of an apology for her daughter's behaviour the next day and suggested we meet up with another friend round mine today, I got a message from the other friend saying she couldn't make it as she was unwell and told me when she see her today out shopping she said she didn't know it was today, even though she suggested it! So I get a message saying she can't make it either. I feel I've helped her out a lot over the years walking her dogs for her, getting her a job and she really sees me as someone who'll just do her favours but I don't get much back apart from being disrespected. She's been late for meet ups numerous times without any real reason, just a case of oh well she can wait. The last time was when I went to hers at an agreed time and she was still shopping, she didn't even apologize! I've got to go to a wedding with her and some others in July and I'm just thinking of calling it a day after that. I don't really need people like this in my life.

She sounds awful. Just detatch slowly and no more favours.

"I got a message from the other friend saying she couldn't make it as she was unwell and told me when she see her today out shopping she said she didn't know it was today, even though she suggested it!"

Hi...please decipher this. What happened?

There was supposed to be 3 of us meeting at mine this afternoon, I got a message off the friend I'm not talking about in the thread to say she couldn't make it as she was unwell but she also see the friend who I am talking about on here earlier today in the supermarket and when she told her she didn't think she'd be able to make the meet up as she felt unwell, the other friend said she didn't know it was today even though she's the one who suggested the meet up in the first place last week. Hope this makes more sense?

It does thank you.

Ok so, your friend (the one the OP is about) has ceased to have any regard for your time. I don't know if that's because she's a takey user or if you've settled into this pattern because you're a bit passive. Could be both.
Either way, she thinks you're at her disposal and that it's ok to keep you hanging around waiting.
Has it always been like that?

Yes pretty much have been kept waiting for 1/2 hour to an hour before now. I'm a very punctual person and I regard this sort of lateness with not much of an excuse as downright rude. Maybe I've stayed friendly with her because of our daughters but our daughters have gone in separate directions since starting secondary in September. As I've posted Im just feeling a bit mugged off after the debacle of her other daughter last week and now today. All these thoughts have been building for a while now. I just want to get this wedding over with and that will be that. Even with that, I've booked us a hotel room with her consent, stated the cost and not heard a thing about her paying her half yet.

Is she like this with everyone?
I used to have a friend who didn't give a toss about keeping people waiting, including me. It wasn't personal to me on her part, she was the same with everyone but I tired of it in the end.

I really don't know, we used to work together, she was never late for work but she couldn't get away with that really. I've been having a rant to my other half, who also knows her and he said she is a bit laid back. Don't know if that's much of an excuse which is making me think aibu?

Hi op yes maybe phase it out a bit. You not get much out it. I found through my daughter people are happy to use you for errands lifts etc. Or start saying no a bit more often

I'm waiting for the next dog minding duty, the answer will be no!

To add to this, I'm still waiting for her to pay her half even though she asked how much the other day!