Something spooky is happening to me

[Senzi]

I lost my mum a year ago and recently weird things are happening. A photograph of her on my sideboard keeps falling over. It’s not near a window or draught, I have no pets.

Also her favourite flowers - sunflowers are appearing wherever I go. I popped into several shops and the first thing I see are sunflowers, whether they are dried flowers or a picture of sunflowers, I’ve never noticed sunflowers anywhere before.

I’ve also noticed weird things like a book we used to read together is suddenly on my bookshelf (it wasn’t there before), or when I randomly turn in the radio the music is something not recent, but something personal to us.

I’m getting a bit freaked out, no-one else knows about these things. Has anyone experienced anything similar?

To quote @LuluBlakey1 , 'it's mishap , accident and coincidences and you are finding meaning where there is none.'

Well to tell the truth 'meaning' is something we as humans create to make sense out of life, so who are you to say what is meaningful to OP or not?

Life and love are full of irrational and inexplicable phenomena, quite the contrary to what you seem to believe.

dont mean to rain on your parade but my mum died and I received no signs it may be you’re looking for these things

I think you’re seeing what you want to see, and stress from bereavement can do all sorts of things to your body and mind. I don’t believe it’s anything ‘woo’ but if it helps people cope to pretend it’s a sign, who cares.

Im sorry for your loss OP.

I lost my engagement ring before dp died, one afternoon I had been talking to his dad on the phone, this was about 6 weeks after he died, after ending the call I walked in to my bedroom to get ready for the school run, my engagement ring was in the middle of the floor. When I first lost it, we stripped the bedroom bare & couldn't find it.

Late dp was the only person in our home that ate corned beef, in the middle of the night, I was woken by a crash in the kitchen, when I went to look there was a tin of corned beef & the tin opener in the middle of the floor. I knew the tin had been at the back of the cupboard as I didn't eat it & dp always used a tin opener instead of the key to open the corned beef.

Dp & I always had this long running argument because I slept with the bedroom door shut & he liked it open, since he died I have often gone to sleep with the door firmly closed & woke in the night to it being open, it's like he is playing mind games with me.

I'm hoping to move soon & I will be tiptoeing out of the flat & hopefully leaving him there for the next resident.

I am very scientific but I do believe in this sort of thing. Who cares if its just the mind....people leave an essence of who they are/ were when they pass.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I like to think they are signs from those who have passed. Either way, it doesn't matter, so long as it helps you. Personally, I believe those we love are always with us in some form.

There are already a couple of posters on here pouring cold water on this - it's more important to them to be able to have a scientific explanation for everything than to speak considerately to someone who is bereaved. Which is unfortunate.

My mother is great with white feathers. If she approves of what I'm doing, she provides one or more. She died in 2014. She can also make places smell of cigarettes. I smell Benson and Hedges, and daughter smells St Moritz when my mother is around, due to the different smokes she had a different times of her life.

We were very close - as in I could speak to her and feel her presence until a couple of months ago when I lost patience and told her to back off. She's coming back a little now.

It's ok. She's my mum. We had a volatile relationship, inevitable being who we are/were, but it's fine that she is still around.

And for the benefit of a poster upthread, I am autistic with diagnosis, and also adhd and pda.

It won’t work. We’ve had a black cat ghost follow us two house moves now. Which dh scoffed at till he saw it a month before he died.

Ive never owned a black cat.

I am not very woo, in fact I'm very cynical, but I've had a few things since my dad died that have made me reconsider and I do believe there are signs- especially those in nature.

Something similar during a period of turmoil in my life, a few years or so after my mum died I was having a particularly bad day, I was expecting a call from the hospital consultant about the results of an MRI one of children had had. The bloody telephone decided to go rogue on me, everyone it rang it cut off. Then the answerphone went rogue too, it kicked in on the first ring instead of the sixth, not giving me time to pick the receiver up. I really needed this conversation with the consultant and I got really upset as I thought I’d miss the call. The phone rang, answerphone kicked it then it rang off, several times, no messages were left. It was the type with a little tape recorder, if a caller left a message it played through the recorders speaker while recording at the same time. it rang one last time and a voice came through the speaker.

My mums voice. “Hi Daffy, hope you’re ok, I’m here if you need me, it’ll be ok. love you”. I sat down in shock, but then a feeling of calm came over me. The telephone call eventually came and it was OK. My child does have a lifelong condition but doesn’t need surgery.

The strange thing is that after that last call the the answerphone went back to behaving itself
Logic tells me that the tape must have come to the end of its run before rewinding itself and mums message was an old one at the end of the tape.
But my heart tells me it was Mum checking in.
That telephone and answering machine have long gone but I’ve kept the little tape from it.

Oh the irony. What an unpleasant response.

It depends on what you want to believe. I'm sure you can find logical explanations if you want.

Or you can accept those who believe your Mum can and is letting you know she's still watching over you and loves you. If you're interested in that side of things Tyler Henry talks about how those who've passed do this.

@Senzi yes I have this and I love it. I speak to my mum a lot - I always have done (I lost her 20 years ago) and I have a song that is associated with the time she died that I call my mums song. Without fail when I’m having a tough time and need some mum love, the song will play on the radio. She is my guardian angel. Nurture what’s happening, carrying on talking to her and you will learn to love these interactions.

I do have a caveat. It’s still quite early days for your loss. Have you fully let her go yet? Make sure you are not holding her spirit back. X

No. I am pointing out that what OP is suggesting; that these things are related to each other, to the death of her mum and are efforts by something 'spooky' to communicate with her means something/one supernatural is making them happen. Any explanation of that can only be, as demonstrated, ludicrous.

She is suffering loss and looking to make a meaning that she wants to be true. There is no connectivity or 'spookiness' about any of these things.

I did a photography project once where I took random photos and published them side by side in a small book.

It was called 'connections'.

Every person that looked through it made some connection between each set of photos. Most of them completely different.

There was none. Just random photos.

I didn't know this actually has a name. Once I thought I might be pregnant and suddenly babies were everywhere!!

Assuming your mum didn't unnerve you when alive, can you just see it as her checking in to say hi? May be in you mind or may be real but either way it's not threatening.

Well, my lovely, either it's that phenomenon of noticing something more when it's at the front of your mind, or it's messages from another realm.

Personally, I don't believe in messages from beyond the grave, but that's not proof that they don't exist.

Either way, it's clear that your mum still lives in a corner of your heart, and nothing can take that away from you.

Leaving him there! Just tell him to stop. Especially the door open.

Exactly the same thing happened to me after my dad passed away.

My husband was always always a sceptic before my dad passed away but soo many odd things happened that even he found it odd and believes my dad was about.

Mine is 🦋. Whenever mum arranged flowers she’d loosen them off saying “let the butterflies in” (she’d heard someone say it on GW years ago!). We would always say it if we were together and something needed szooshing. After she died I was sitting in the car with DSIS and dad on a call to the celebrant for the funeral. It was mid April and a red admiral floated at the window for the longest time. Then, on the day of the funeral we were all standing round waiting to leave and something caught my eye and I looked into the conservatory where she spent most of her time and it was another red admiral. Another time I was doing some guerrilla gardening at school and one of the mums said “Oh how funny! That butterfly was hovering really near you!”…Hi mum! Every time I’ve needed mum there’s been a 🦋 be it a random one out of season in real life or chocolate ones served with dessert when I was upset with my sis. They always keep in touch to let you know they’re still here and that you’ve got this ❤️🦋

🌻🌻How very lovely!
Your mum doesn't want to scare you,she's trying to let you know that she's ok and hasn't left you.
Please don't be worried about it,if you don't like it ask her to stop and she will.
Your mum obviously loves you very much and is using a lot of energy to try and communicate that to you.
You can talk to her either aloud at home or in your head,she will hear you.
You could grow some sunflowers yourself in her memory,she's be delighted.🌻🌻🌈

Things that are spooky but could also have a reasonable explanation are the best kind in my opinion. They’re not clear enough to be frightening but they’re vague enough to be comforting.

Put the photo on a drawer and see if it gets moved then.

Sorry for your loss x

It's no more upsetting than your insenstitive post. You don't like it, then toddle off and read something else.

Maybe don't open a thread that you know will irritate or upset you.