To wonder why do some people become so invested / angry about others situations on Mn?

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I get the threads, for example a dh / dp partner being a dick and some posters becoming riled up on behalf of OP. That's understandable that some mners will become upset/angry. But then there are some who take it so personally as if it's their problem.
I can imagine them coming away from the site feeling angry and brooding to return later and have another go at the OP or other Mners because they can hide behind a keyboard.
Many Mners are helpful and understanding whilst others are complete arseholes and looking for a fight although there is no reason to do so because the original problem isn't theirs to start with.

People feel how they feel.

Weird, isn't it? It's like some of them are projecting massively. Why else would they take it to heart so much?
Most Mumsnetters are great though

Boredom at a guess

I agree. It's weird that some people get so angry that complete strangers are choosing to live their lives in a different way.

What gets to me is when you share an experience and then get told it's either not true and completely twist the scenario with only the tiny bit of information shared. They can't accept they have got it all wrong and that tends to rile me up.

Boredom, makes sense. Some posters feel like shit and others come along and give them a kicking. Some people must feel so insecure that they have do slag others to make themselves feel better.

Some people find the OPs situation too close to home and are projecting.
Some people want to 'win' the debate so will keep going to the death.
Some people want attention, and you can bet your house that if you post something controversial there will be a slew of notifications that you've been quoted, responded to etc. Often the gentle thoughtful advice posts go unacknowledged on a thread as they're not as exciting.

some people just revel in being contrary and like to be 'oh stop making such a fuss' over every single situation.

Someone will post a thread saying their baby was born a month ago and their parents who live two streets away are yet to visit and there'll be a flurry of 'don't be so needy, you need to realise that other people's babies just aren't that interesting to most people'.

It's easy to misread tone in text. I doubt that many of the posts that you read as "angry" were actually written by someone feeling anger.

They're probably the same in real life, drama llamas

I like the ones that keep asking 'any update OP', or 'HOSPITAL NOW', or 'leave him NOW'

But the most common are completely made up bits out of the OP, things that were never said in the OP but the poster confidently asserts that this or that happened, or this or that was the intent of the other person OP is talking about. Completely making things up.

Like when people say they are "boiling on your behalf" or "crying for you"..I mean, get a fecking life.

Also weird is when people think you are all invested and mad though. I've got comments like "why are you so angry" when I literally couldn't be further from angry. So weird that people assume emotions from words on a screen with so little context.

Who even knows if anythign anyone says on here is real? Why get invested?

All this. I've seen some really lovely, wise posts being completely ignored because others on that page have been argumentative, dickish and rude and people choose to focus on arguing with them instead of the decent posters.

Its a shame as if people like that were just ignored they probably wouldnt do it so much.

I can help you out here. When you say aggressive things like ‘Get a fecking life’, it makes you sound angry.

Insecurity, jealousy, feeling lack of power and hurting others makes them feel more powerful.

Sometimes I will read a thread and think "oh my god, this would wind me up so much if it was me" but in those instances I usually exit the thread because it's too personal and I prefer to use MN for relaxation and I don't get any buzz from someone else's distress

Yes 🙌 I can remember reading one reply to a post on a marriage that had gone a bit stale with the actual words: “You need to leave NOW” (with capitals as well) I was gobsmacked - like who do these people think they are demanding other people do exactly as they are telling them to do!

It does? Not to me. That's your baggage, assigning anger where none is there.

How odd of you to see anger,of all things, in my post. Perhaps you are one of the people who needs emojis on everything?

But thank you for so swiftly proving my point for me!

I often suspect it is defensive behaviour, whatever the OP is complaining about is behaviour the angry PP is guilty of.

When I read some really nasty comments on threads I feel sorry for the OP and hope that they haven't been pushed to even more difficult thoughts and problems as a result.

I think some people on this site are keyboard warriors - rather troubled people who pounce on someone's AIBU with aggression and rudeness far out of proportion to what's required. I'm always shocked by them, but I think they must be miserable people, full of anger, who just want someone else/an excuse to take it out on. I bet they wouldn't say those things to people's faces, so it's a kind of therapy for them. Usually the sweary ones.

Then there are the people who will ask respondents 'Why do you care? Why are you so invested? Why are you so angry about xyz?' when there was no indication from the pp that they were any of these things! Surely, after decades of internet, people known that it's difficult sometimes to judge a response from the text only - you don't have tone of voice, body language, gesture, facial expression to mitigate the message? I was accused of being angry/making up rules on a recent thread when I was just giving an opinion, as invited to do...and I thought, in a relaxed, good-humoured way? I think to ask anyone 'why do you care?' on these forums is ridiculous - I care about lots of things, from the welfare of my loved ones (very much indeed) to the fact that a jumper is the wrong colour for me or that a celebrity irritates me (not as much, obviously).

You can guarantee that most threads on here will go through a predictable development with nasty, personalised arguments starting up in the later pages. I do wonder if people would behave like this face to face!

MN are providig an invalable mental health service since GPs and councelling services are dire now! lol

I just spotted this too and called it out on another thread. Someone without a garden angry at those not doing no mow may. I can’t really get my head round it,

and I see folks defending the op like they are best buddies, and saying well she obviously x y and a, and I think, do they know them, how do they know this.