to wonder if the youngest child in every family is an egomaniac?

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because in our extended family that seems to be the case.

Even as adults they take umbrage at any implied critisism or unwanted advice, are generally irresponsible and perhaps most importantly they treat their siblings' posessions as their own. And they get stroppy when they lose games, especially board games.

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Themoon66 - the thread was inspired by a conversation with my youngest sister. I love her very much and she has many positive traits but I am always walking on eggshells. It is the same with the youngest in DH's family.

I am youngest of 6 and tick all the boxes listed above. I have calmed down lots in my old age, but I'm not fond of criticism, so please don't try!!!

DD3 is not like that but DD2 is.

That works for my dad's sister (youngest of 5) and my mum's brother (youngest of 3). Both of them think they should be the centre of attention and are very poor at picking up the mood of others or taking hints. They both also tend to make plans and assume that others will fall in with those plans, then get offended if they don't.

My younger brother, on the other hand, is very emotionally well-balanced and easy going, but there are only two of us so perhaps that makes a difference.

my brother is the youngest of four and a huge egomaniac

ds is youngest and probably on his way

My DH is the eldest and in the extended family can only ditto all the original points for his little sister - even to the point of making competing g/children which I'm finding it harder and harder to stand by and smile (thru gritted teeth) about...

She has big big big ego and although is superbly lovely, it is really starting to get in the way...if my ds even appears to be favoured (which he isn't AT ALL) there's a big scene, but it's OK for FIL to ignore my (elder) grandchild boy for a whole w/end, to the point of using OUR video (yes it's sad) camera to record the favoured g/child without even getting one frame of any of our family, while extolling the virtues of the younger one...maybe there's more to this youngest egomaniac thing!?*

Think I need to start another thread...

Other way round in my house!

That's such a perfect description of my older sister (oldest of 3 of us). I love her to bits, but she is a total egomaniac.

Oh and I'm a younger child - so of course there are exceptions

I'm the youngest, I don't think I'm an ego maniac, but my husband point blank refuses to play board games with me or my family so maybe there is something in it.

Mind you I still haven't got over the time I was playing trivial pursuit with my family (aged about ten) and I was on centre square to win. The answer on the card was Cassius Clay - I said Mohammed Ali, and my brother wouldn't let me have it. Is a ten year old supposed to know at what point someone converted to Islam??? I then lost the game, and the plot.

Would have to say, in our family of 3 girls, the eldest is definitely the egomaniac - everything has to be about her!! Drives me bloody berserk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Not read all the posts but my little brother never thinks he does anything wrong. He made me late for my PGCE observation, and then asked for an apology when i said 'that's EXACTLY the same as me making you late for a GCSE exam, but at a higher level'... why would I need to apologise? He made ME late. So he said 'I don't think we should speak for a while'. Then twn minutes later he'd forgotten and was speaking to me and talking to my baby bump...

"they treat their siblings' posessions as their own."

Purhaps because as the youngest you never get anything new as it's all hand me downs. Also the youngest rarely has album upon album of photographs from their childhood or have baby record books. By the time the youngest comes along the novely has usually worn off with that kind of stuff or else there isn't usually the time to do it.

The youngest also finds that the parents remember the date and time of every move the eldest made from the first time the baby farted up until when they first walked, did a wee in a potty etc. I ask my mum and she says "hmm, i think you walked at about 15 mths but i can't be sure."

I know this thread is supposed to be light hearted but this kind of thing pisses me off because i missed out on alot being the youngest child. Nothing you do is ever a first and god help you if the older one/s are smarter than you. You get stroppy with board games because for once you just wanna win and be more clever than the rest. It rarely ever happens!

So at you.

pmsl georgimama

BackToBasics - you have just confirmed that the youngest do tend to take umbrage easily

I have 3 boys
#1 - From the day he was born he was 'bright' & always the first the achieve targets etc, now aged 15 his IQ is through the roof & the way his bran works is scary
#2 - Hyper boy, was born screaming & 5 years later hasn't stopped - he's just being reffered for assesements for ADHD/ODD
#3 - Born with his thumb in mouth & a smile on his face - He's still smiling

Out of my 3 it's definatly the first born that the Egocentrical manic
(One of his teachers once told him that he could rule the world if he tried - I actauly think thats what he's aiming for LOL)

Dd, the youngest in our family, is definitely an egomaniac But we love her anyway because her outrageous imperiousness makes us all laugh and then she cracks and laughs too

Hmmm I still can't figure out which of my 2 ds's is the biggest egomaniac. They are generally both very well behaved (ds1 - 4, ds2 - 2) But when they do blow WOW! It's like watching a tornado in action. DS1 gets stroppy huffs and throws stuff about and only a major yell of his name stops him, but his moods can last for hours! . DS1 (who is also a redhead) blows up and yells the place down, then stops and goes on as if nothing had happened - leaving us all gasping in his wake! But on the whole I find that DS1 is the most possesive of toys etc and doesn't like his little bro touching his stuff, but will deliberately do things that will wind him up and then gets huffy when he gets told off for it!

haha.
yes, my littlest blister is tres difficil at times. always was an awkward domineering egomaniac control freak, truth be told shes nice tho... besides all that, like. steel coated chocolate. or the other way round... hard to tell sometimes.

anyhoo, my youngest definately shows sign of tyranny. i just chuckle to myself that i can usurp him anytime i like by having another, which'll really knock him for six, eh? [evil cackle]

As children - younger ones seems fine as they just live in the shadows alot of the older ones who are natural born ego's. But as adults then yes most of the self centred selfish drama queens I know all have one thing in common - they are the youngest child. not sure when this change happens - middle kids def the best!!!

My younger brother is definitely and ego maniac, and a control freak. My youngest who is 4 is the canniest of all my children, but the ego -maniac tendencies havent surfaced yet....

My middle child is the egomaniac. Your op described him perfectly.

He is only 7. Was hoping he would grow out of it.

hard to tell as yet, altho there is definate parsonality traits being shapened (sharpened??) by birth order.......or at least as far as I can see.

DD1 thinks she is boss, and is very very bossy ( and ). she thinks tho that any and all of the others possescions (ekk at sp?) are HERS!!!

she takes DD2's clothes at the drop of a hat........sometimes them all being of similar size and shape is NOT a good thing. especially according to DD2.
she also thinks that make-up is a free-for-all.....well.....until anyone tries to borrow HERS.
she also has to be the one to win........but DS1 is the worst for being a bad loser.

DD2 seems to be the typical 'middle' child. eager to please, and the most likely to give in to any of them needing anything. she is also the one to help out and comfort the quickest.

DD3 seems to have egomaniac tendencies. if she cries she expects to be instantly listened to, and if she wants something she expects to be given it.....altho she won;t just take. she will however strop if not given it right away!

DS1 seems to be the worst loser....and thumps the floor if he doens;t get his own way. he does then get left out of stuff by his friends because of it

and then there is DS2, and youngest......

spoilt, babied, expects anything at once, cannot concetrate as he is constantly entertained by someone, so if the first bores him he goes on and on until something attracts his attention. to the point that school has noticed.

he is also the comic, and as he is the smallest of course his antics do get laughed at more making his comic timing and jokes expand.
he won;t eat great either, as I babied him cos of allergies and so I have got one which refuses anything he thinks looks odd......and I give in too.

we will see tho as he grows if these traits get worse, or if we can beat it out of him encourage better behaviour.....

nope middle child not youngest IME. Am hoping this wont happen to dd1 though..lol

definately the youngest, Im the oldest and i think sanest, middle one is a little loopy and the youngest is crazzy