I want to know who I'm talking to. AIBU??

[SouthCountryGirl]

Bearing in mind I'm visually impaired and neurological problems so have difficulty remembering names and faces.

I've encountered a few people who I've spoken to once met again and when asked their name, they get rude about it. They don't tell me their name and tell me we've met before...in September 2019.

They know I'm visually impaired because it says so on my running bib.

AIBU to want to know who I'm talking to? I'm not sure why someone expects me to remember them when we've not talked for so long. I meet a lot of people and the chances of me remembering people is small.

So it’s a ‘few’ people, of the ‘lot’ of people you meet, and you’re upset enough to make a post on MN ?

How do you approach this conversation? I mean I'm surprised they are so rude about it but do you think saying "I have a neurological condition- would you mind reminding me of your name?" Might help?

I’m terrible at remembering names and faces and I’ve said to several people ‘hello, nice to meet you’ and had someone reply ‘we’ve met’ in a very rude tone. All I could do was apologise, but it makes me feel terrible, and I don’t understand why they wouldn’t let it pass. If it happened to me, I’d probably go along with it, and introduce myself (again), not make a point.

In your shoes, I’d probably just tell them you’re visually impaired and don’t always remember. They might not have seen the bib.

if you are bad with names can you tell people,

Of course you're not being unreasonable. The world is full of arseholes.
Point out your condition and ask them to remind you.

Why so nasty? The Op has come here for help.

Ableist much.

OP, I would suggest being open and telling people you struggle with remembering names.

I often have the same thing (I have no general memory issues but for some reasons it take forever for names to register in my mind). I just state that I have this problem so people understand why I might not remember their name.

@DustyLee123
So it’s a ‘few’ people, of the ‘lot’ of people you meet, and you’re upset enough to make a post on MN ?

You post is irrelevant, is of zero practical help to the OP and just makes you sound like a petty bully...

Aaaaand another one.
Why is it the OPs fault that people are aggressively rude to them?

Someone I know through a volunteer group has face blindness and I have to reintroduce myself every time, roughly once a month or so. I can't even begin imagine being a dick about it. Incidentally I have good vision and no neurological conditions and regularly forget names and faces of people people I last met much more recently than September 2019. I think you have just encountered a higher than usual proportion of arseholes.

Sorry people are backing up your post about rudeness by being rude OP.

I think the overall answer is that people are generally self centred and ignorant. "How could anyone forget them?! "

YANBU

I'm dreadful with names. I remember faces better but have bad eyesight (not visually impaired, just complicated prescription that means when I'm not driving, the distance is fuzzy). I have people say hi in weird ways sometimes like they're not going to let ne ignore them - only I'm not, I didn't know it was them until they were closer! So, OP, I have a lot of sympathy.

I tell people I'm bad with names. Sometimes I tell them about my eyesight. Sometimes I tell them in the beginning - I drop it in the conversation - so that they're not offended later, but sometimes I don't. I do feel bad at time but at other times I don't, I'm not doing it deliberately!

Be upfront if it helps, but don't worry about these people. If someone thinks you should have remembered them since before the pandemic, well, they've obviously not much going on in their lives! Their problem, not yours. You've got better things to do with your life than be upset by people like that.

I think that's really rude of them, not you. I wonder how good at recognising people they would be in your circumstances. I'm willing to bet they wouldn't be very good at it at alll.

When people are arsey, maybe just silently point at your bib where it says you're visually impaired. Then mentally file them under 'rude and ableist' if they don't immediately apologise. Don't let a few prats upset you. They're the arseholes here, not you.