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To not know what to do

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actuallydodgyaliens · 20/05/2023 09:12

I tried to leave my long term partner and father of my children last year. I did leave, I moved in with family. He wasn't very kind to me shall we say. I met someone else in that time.

I couldn't afford to leave my partner long term though.. with 2 young children, I gave up full time work after my first child, he wouldn't buy me out of our house.. I can't afford legal advice.. I can't get universal credit help for housing while my name is still on the mortgage, and he won't take me off it. Rock and a hard place.

He said he'd changed, realised what we had with us etc, so I went back. I wanted to try to have the family unit I'd wished for.

But I can't let go of the man I was seeing while we were apart, I've known him years but we only got romantic while we were separated.

He makes me laugh.. like really laugh, in a way my partner never has. He listens, and never gets nasty with me. He is like a best friend. But to be with him properly, would mean a lot of upheaval. Saying goodbye to the family unit. And to be back with my partner, I need to cut him off.

I just don't know what to do.

OP posts:
ZekeZeke · 20/05/2023 09:21

What you are doing is dangerous.
If you are not happy with your partner you need to split and sell the house . Go to a Solicitor and get this in motion.

Get a job and your financial independence.
When you are ready, having worked on yourself you should start dating.
Put your priority into getting thr house sold, financial stability, look after your children and a man LAST

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