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I was really struggling with my manager and work was horrible. Thankfully I’ve been able to change teams and I’m much happier. Three people I’m close to at work have said they can see a big difference in my demeanour.

I have another colleague who I am friendly with but she keeps repeatedly asking if I’m happier now in team x. She’s asked me that question twice this week alone, I even once said yes I am and she responded with, yes but are you only happy now because xyz.

I appreciated her asking me the first time, but to keep asking the same question .. it’s just a reminder of a bad experience and I want to move forward from it.

Not unreasonable at all. It's hard to get your confidence back and trust in people at work after a horrible experience and having to change teams. It sounds like the colleague asking you is either just being a bit nosey and tactless or could they have had issues with this person in the past? Either way be brave and tell them exactly what you've said here. I had a bad time at work too about a year ago and had time off with it. When I returned the questions came up quite a few times of a similar nature but luckily died down when people realised I wasn't going going tell them much, keep going and well done for getting out of a toxic situation.

I'd say "I appreciate you checking in but there's no need. I'm fine. "

If that doesn't work maybe a firmer " you keep asking how I am. I've told you I'm fine, is everything ok?