My parents have a pretty dysfunctional relationship. It has always been the same so their behaviour is "normal" to me.
However over the last five or so years I've become so tired of the dynamic.
So now when DM turns up and wants to spend a whole afternoon complaining about DF I don't engage and change the subject.
Tbh DF definitely has huge failings in the relationship. But I now also feel DM has martyred herself and enjoys being the victim somewhat.
DM is lovely but I do feel she can be overly dramatic at times.
DF is a charismatic person who loves us but is ultimately quite selfish. However he is still my dad.
I am coming to the realisation that however terrible my DM feels DF is to her, it's not really my business. I feel I have been privy to too much for far too long. To the point I almost feel like I've been a pawn since childhood and burden. It's made me very distant from DF, and DM to an extent too.
AIBU to just want to be their child and not DM confidant/sounding board/counsellor