Sister has no boundaries

[Anon204]

My sister is in her late 30’s while I’m still in my early 30’s, we’re both married/engaged. When there has been the odd time her and her partner have stayed over (they live about 2 hrs away) she always has some sort of excuse to come into our bedroom, sometimes in a morning while my partner and I are still in bed to ask us a question, or if she wants to fix her hair or make up when she’ll just let herself in and use my stuff, without asking or checking if I even have whatever it is she needs. To me our bedroom is a private area for us and our kids, especially while my partner and I are still in bed, it’s not for guests to just roam in to use my stuff as they please.

AIBU to get pissed off at her disregard of our private space? While I think this behaviour is ok when we’re young and single, now I think it’s a bit weird and an invasion of privacy.

My other half wouldn't want my sibling coming in - and I wouldn't want his siblings coming into my room either. I'm not keen on anybody just waltzing in. I've got a simple hook and eye latch at the very top of my door on the inside - really unobtrusive and easy to fit.

You have to actually speak to her and tell her it's rude. Doesn't matter what she comes back with, even if it's the old, 'I'm your sister'. I'd respond that she isn't his sister and should be aware he has a right to privacy. Tbh I wouldn't allow her to stay over.

I agree.

She is really rude.

You have mentioned it and she persists with her rudeness.

Your partner is very tolerant.

I certainly wouldn't be in his place.

You need to enforce your boundaries. It's really that simple.

Same here 😂