Regular user here but using another name due to people knowing who I am on my other.
I don't wish to drip feed the information so extract the parts which are needed.
My boyfriend of six months (known each other 29 years and best friends most of our lives) was with his ex partner (let's call her C) for almost ten years. Together they have 2 sons. One is 11 and DP took on as his own from six months old and one son together aged 7.
They bought a house together in 2015, him working and her never working and staying at home with the children but the mortgage is joint. They split Feb 2022 after her affair and she was using the children as a weapon and trying to bully DP into having another baby (stabbing condoms, failing to take pill etc.) with the understanding he would buy her out of the house. They found a buyer. She refused to sign it. She wanted to house so would buy him out. He waited 2 months but never did. Both continued under the same roof while arguing over what to do with the house. He eventually moved in with his mum and C decided they would sell the house, DP found a buyer and all was settled until she pulled out and refused to sign last minute. This has been the case since. The day after he moved out, her new bloke moved on and she changed the locks and has no access to the house. For months he tried talking to her but she refuses to Co operate, it went to mediation and now eventually to court because she refuses to sign anything and DP is still paying for the mortgage which is not on a fixed rate and has doubled in price. C also attempted to go to the CMS to get more money but when they saw he paid for the mortgage and the TV package still, they said there is no maintenance needed. DP has the youngest son every weekend Friday to Monday and every Tuesday evening (eldest comes once a month or when he feels like it) which C then reduced to just Sunday nights and then alternative because she thought it would get her more money by cutting contact.
I have a good relationship with their son. He is close to my daughter the same age and tells me things of his mum (she tells him daddy doesn't love him, that he only sees him cos he has to, he doesn't pay money. Said mummy doesn't bath or brush his teeth cos waters too expensive and expects him to sit on his tablet all day, he's in bed by 5.30 to 6 each night so had no social life so looks forward to seeing his dad and my daughter for company) it literally broke me and knowing he suffers at home makes me hate knowing he has to go home.
DP got the letter sent through solicitors and C has got the court date stating that she will need to attend which resulted in her texting my DP saying he will no longer be seeing his son as she is making them homeless and will know how useless he is and refuses to provide for his son.
DP is due to get son tonight but she will refuse him to go.
C is currently pregnant with baby number 3 and current bloke lives there in the house paid for by DP and refuses to take over the mortgage either. All hands are tied and it's stopping dp and I been able to look into buying our own place but my main concern is the health and wellbeing of the poor kid in the centre of it used as a pawn.
Aibu to ask for some advice. It's killing me and I'm not even the one who's son it is. Aibu to ask for anyone who maybe in a similar situation to know how go about legal route regarding her stopping him seeing his son? It's costing between 2k and 6k to sort the mortgage and force a sale but losing access to his son is the result of him trying to take his life back.
Thanks for reading for this long.