To be upset that my Godfather dropped into conversation that I was battered by my foster parents before I went to that 'orphanage'

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I am a regular poster and have name changed. I am on the adoption thread as I have been trying to get information about my past.
Anyway, I got some information from the adoption society when I was about 20. They said there were suspicions that I had been abused by foster parents but because some of my files were with the local authority they didn't have the full story. I asked my parents about it and they denied knowing anything about it.
I suffer from epilepsy and the neurologist is trying to find out why it suddenly happened as an adult. I told him about my past and that I also have lots of scarring on my head and neck and don't know why.
At a family event last week my godfather asked me if the medics knew what had brought the epilepsy on. I opened my mouth to speak and he then boomed loudly, "It's probably to do with being battered by your foster parents before going in that orphanage".Apart from feeling like an extra out of Annie I was stunned he knew this. My parents denied it so I know they lied to me. They are both dead so I can't ask them about it.
I'm so angry with him for being so matter of fact about it, cross with my parents for not telling me the truth, etc.
Thanks for reading this far. Just needed a rant really!

YANBU

I'm so sorry

Hope you find the truth.

that must be very tough to hear...

Oh poor you. How awful to find something like that out in that way. Have you talked to your godfather further about what he knows? Sounds like you and the authorities are doing lots of work searching, and some of it might already be known by him. So sorry that you had to listen to such an insensitive comment.

That must have been such an awful situation. Whilst I think, that under differnet circumstances, you would have been glad about this piece of information...the way he has gone about it is absolutely appalling.
As for your parents denieing it...I don't know your situation, but is it possible that they felt really guilty, as obviously something in your homelife meant you had to go into fostercare and then into a home, and that it was the guilt of then finding out that you were abused by your fosterparents meant they couldn't be honest about it?
It doesn't excuse their behaviour, but it would be an understandable reaction, iykwim.

when I said glad...I meant, that this information may give your doctor a lead to go by...not glad as being glad, of course...

Actually I know I'm not being unreasonable! 3andnomore, I knew what you meant so don't worry.
My godfather isn't the most approachable person so I don't think that I'll contact him about it. I might ring an auntie from that generation though.
I can see why my parents denied it but it just leaves yet more questions to be answered.
It was the way he did it that stunned me. He didn't know how I would react to such news. I haven't even told the DS's that I was adopted so imagine if they'd heard...

LIke I said, the way he did it is just mind blowingly ignorant...you say he isn't very approachable anyway, so, probably hasn't got very good social skills it seems.
I really hope that maybe that aunt can answer you some questions...! It must be horrible not to really know your past.