To think my partner may be neurodiverse?

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Really struggling as DP is a very distractible guy, like I'll ask him to do the washing up and 2 hours later he'll have started a bit then just got "distracted" by something on his laptop and has not done any more.

Just one of many examples of how it takes him so long to do something because his thought process gets interrupted and he forgets what he was doing.

I'm struggling with what to think about this, I'm very much a get things done now type person and relax later, and part of me thinks he's purposefully sitting down at his laptop with the intention of not doing the washing up.

He had a MH episode a few years ago where he was sectioned, but nothing since. Could he be neurodiverse or just lazy and frustrating?!

He could be neurodiverse, he could be purposefully avoiding doing something because you've asked him to do it. It could be one of a whole variety of things.

If you were to broach the subject with him, would he be receptive? Would he see other indicators that might suggest any type of ND? Or would he get defensive, argue back? Either way it might tell you more or it might not.

Hopefully you have the sort of relationship where you can ask does he intend to do something but find it hard to start or finds he gets easily distracted from a boring thing by a more interesting thing? I think we all are like that to some extent, but if it's really getting in the way of his daily life and making it really hard for him to function, then it's potentially worth investigating further.

NHS waiting times for assessment are enormous, unfortunately.

I think he'd probably just disagree with me and think he's fine. He's always denied having any actual mental health problem so doubt he'd be receptive to this.
I agree about most people getting bored but 10 mins of washing up should be doable without needing to sit down and find a new podcast to listen to.
I'm finding it really difficult as it means he doesn't do his chores so the house gets messy and unclean, and he will forget to come and cuddle me before I sleep (we don't sleep together) so this is hard as I need the physical affection. I also see little acts of service like the washing up as my love language :)