Hi all I’m in need of some advice. It’s a long one so sorry! This is mainly about issues with my ex partners mother. So I have a daughter she is now 20 month me and her father live apart we still get on but he has a lot of issues (alcohol etc) he isn’t the best father figure but does try a little it is what it is. I’m not comfortable leaving my daughter alone with him just yet so I take her to see him regularly due to his issues. On the other hand his mother and father have been absent from my daughters life for a year and a half. His mother never liked me she would ignore me when I tried to speak to her and always came across as in a huffy mood whenever she came to our flat to drop something off. We found out we were having a baby she didn’t seem excited at all. During my pregnancy it was more like a competion / game to her with my mum. My daughter arrived his mother came to visit my daughter at my parents house ( where me and my daughter are living) she ignored my mum and dad , she made comments etc and came across very rude. She texted for 2 weeks every day checking up on baby. I found out she had bought a car seat for her partners car, I wasn’t told this she didn’t even ask me so I texted her and told her she won’t need it as I’m not comfortable with my newborn going in the car yet. The texts stopped she went silent for 4 weeks. So my ex partner texted her to ask why she hasn’t bothered in 4 weeks she started making excuses up. Then it all started from there she just wasn’t bothering no contact nothing. We had a lot of disagreements for months about this she would keep making excuses that she’s got work she can only see her weekends ‘ that she couldn’t see her on a weekday after work by the time they get their tea’ then her words were ‘ she should be able to have her alone she shouldn’t have to be baby sat when seeing her she’s not stupid’. I told her from day 1 that I’m not comfortable yet on leaving my baby yet but you can see her anytime all you have to do is ask and I will bring her to see you, or you can come to my parents to see her or your sons. She said she isn’t coming to my mam and dads house which I found very hurtful and confused by. She’s never asked in the full year and a half. She texted her son saying ‘ im not coming to her mam and dads so you either bring her to see me or I guess I won’t be seeing her’. She has still been buying presents and money but taking them to her sons which I wasn’t happy about we asked her why can’t she just send them here she has a car and lives 5 minutes away she refuses and says she won’t be buying if she has to bring them here. This women has played a lot of mind games with me to try and wind me up by doing things she knows what will annoy me. I honestly don’t know how hard it is to pick up your phone and ask to see your grand daughter I can’t get my head around any of it I’m so confused to why she is buying her stuff on Xmas birthdays etc but doesn’t ask to see her. We have contacted her numerous of times and she just plays the victim and says shes not allowed to see her which I don’t get because we have been trying for her to make an effort all this time. She has me blocked on 4 different phones I tried with her 2 month ago asking her if we’re welcome to come to hers.. etc and she’s blanked every single one of them. So 3 weeks ago I contacted my ex I said it’s your responsibility now I’m done trying with them she can see her anytime I will bring her over. He then screen shotted this to her and her exact words were ‘ you know you can bring her to mine anytime you don’t have to ask I’m not begging but I see her on a regular basis not once every few month’. Which I was absoutley baffled by because of she wanted to see her regularly why hasn’t she been replying to my messages and why hasn’t she asked to see her. She then said she would come to his to see her on the weekend, my daughter was poorly at the time so I give her an option that she can come to my house and pop in and see her as I can’t take her out the house. Her reply was ‘ no we will meet up next weekend’. I got no messages the following weekend. Then I was blocked a couple of days later. Has anyone got any ideas or advice to what she’s trying to do? Does it sound like she’s trying to play the victim