I feel I have to apologise

[Mum987650]

My daughter had a thing for a boy and she has had nothing but grief from other girls telling her to leave him alone and that he thinks she's ugly.
My daughter got upset at school because of all of it and spoke with a teacher and told her everything and they called the boy into the office to see what was going on but he had no idea.
Now his family have issues with me because of him getting spoken to by the teachers even though my daughter is the one getting grief from others because she likes him.
I feel I have to apologise to him and his family!!

I wouldn't have been happy either. Its nothing to do with him, its about him.

School should have pulled the other girls in, not the boy.

Yes I understand that, but why take it out on me and my daughter by ignoring us and makinh out we are the bad guys in all this, it was my daughter getting all the grief

The other girls only know she likes him because she must have told them that she does. She IS creating the drama around it. She is too young for this nonsense and it isn’t fair on him that she was talking about him and he has now been pulled in to see the teacher over it.

The other girls are teasing her, they need to be spoken to and your daughter needs to be spoken to and told to stop talking about him. He needs to just be left alone. I would apologise to the other parents and explain that you’ll speak to your daughter about appropriate things to discuss in school.

And this is why children, which is what ten years old are, shouldn't be on WhatsApp

Is there a possibility that your DD may have been being a nuisance to Alan, and thats why his mum is annoyed with DD? I think I'd be asking the school what went on and get the story from the grown ups. Now his mums involving herself it might be an idea to get the full facts.

I’d be pissed off if my son got dragged into this shit at age 10 because he’d have been embarrassed and want nothing to do with it. I wouldn’t be adding to any drama by not speaking to you, I’d have just told the school to leave my son out of it.

Why the fuck do these parents not know what their kids are doing on WhatsApp if they insist on 10 year olds messaging each other? Do your daughter a favour and don’t let her have WhatsApp at age 10.

Teachers have enough to do without having to sort out drama that’s extended to WhatsApp.

The kids need to be kids and the adults need to be adults!

The school should have called the nasty girls in who was bullying your daughter and calling her ugly, not the boy who has said nothing and has no idea what’s going on.

And why apologize to mother of boy? She should be upset with the school and the nasty mean girls, not with you. In fact, she should be standing with you in all this.

People are so foolish and dim. You and your daughter are the only decent ones in this mess. I don’t know what the answer is, you’re surrounded by idiots.

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WhatsApp at 10? Wtf and romantic shit at that age I just can't take seriously sorry.Theyre children.

Talk to your daughter about how she upset this boy, and how she needs to curtail this type of behaviour.

I don’t really understand the situation as the other mum is acting like her son is in trouble, but that doesn’t align with your version of events that he didn’t do anything. If people are bullying at school, they should be spoken to but the school needs to treat the witnesses/perpetrators properly. Anyway that’s a smaller issue in comparison to the actual bullying. Hopefully this chat has stopped the bullying. I’m sure her son will get over it in time, because he shouldn’t be in trouble if he isn’t involved

To be fair your daughter may have made her son feel uncomfortable. It’s no different from a boy having a crush on a girl, and the girl getting creeped out cause it’s not reciprocated.

Also your daughter shouldn’t have told people that she fancies him, because word will spread. I think it’s more noticeable when you turn the genders around eg a girl hears about how much a boy she doesn’t like fancies her and finds out he’s been speaking about her to others - it’s bound to make her feel awkward. He might feel that way.

ultimately they’re 10 as well. They’re not going to handle things reasonably like an adult will. I think it’s reasonable for the parent and child to keep their distance if only
for the reason of the unrequited crush.

The school,seemed to have handled it poorly. They asked the lad about what he'd been saying, but not the girls doing the actual bullying? I'd be pretty miffed if I was his mum too.