My Uncle is bedridden, so my Auntie has hardly been able to leave their home. She's disabled herself, so not easy urgently changing sheets and totally reliant on someone looking volunteering to drop food off for her.
Uncle is presently in hospital, so Auntie can leave house - a family friend has volunteered to bring Auntie down to see my Mum, take her out for lunch and then come to visit me after I finish work. My Mum has said 'no', it's too short notice as the house is a mess. It's currently tidy by her standards, but she'd have had at least three hours to hoover lounge, tidy newspapers, straighten cushions etc (bathroom is clean).
I feel for my Auntie. Another factor is Mum and I share the same birthday, so they were coming down for that. Mum won't be doing anything until she sees us just before teatime/this evening. I know she's going to spend all evening talking at us (nothing unusual there), but she'll keep saying I feel like a 'cow' and I'm downhearted as I'd have loved to have seen Auntie and know it's done her food to get out.
AIBU to be p....ed off with my Mum over this? I know she'd have to do some housework, but so would I after work.